July 10, 2019
Kristin Davis was brought to tears as she raised important points about a sensitive on-going issue which her adopted children experienced -- racism.
To others, Kristin Davis’ choice to adopt colored children may come as unorthodox, but to the “Sex and the City” actress, it was a no-brainer decision which she made out of love and has taught her much since.
During her sit-down interview for “Red Table Talk” with Jada Pinkett Smith and Adrienne Banfield Norris, Davis opened up about being the mother of two kids who she adopted in 2011 and 2018.
‘YOU ABSOLUTELY DO NOT FULLY UNDERSTAND’
While it is no secret that racism is still happening in many parts of the world, Davis explained that the gravity of the situation could never be “fully” felt by a mere spectator as opposed to a woman whose child is being treated indifferently; more so, the child herself.
“This is what I want to say, from a white person adopting [black children]: You absolutely do not fully understand. There’s no doubt. There’s no way you could,” she said.
The actress went on to share accounts where she observed “institutionalized” racism directed at her kids. When her child, Gemma, was a baby, people would unintentionally stereotype her to become “a great basketball player” one day, leaving Davis “horrified” at the remark.
Communication is essential to know of the different experiences of children as they may not always opt to tell an adult about a situation where they were made to feel lower than they are.
In a different setting, a young white girl held a swing for her friend who was on the other side of the playground, despite Gemma standing and waiting for her turn to enjoy the set. After bringing up the case to the school administrators, Davis was dismissed and replied: “We just see them all the same. We don’t see color.”
“It was a very harsh moment of understanding,” Davis said. “I don’t know how every person of color has gotten through this. I don’t understand how you could take this every day.”
‘I WILL NEVER BE BLACK’
No mother ever wants to see her child in pain; for the pain felt by the child is equally felt by the mother, but for Davis, it was worse -- she was not a woman of color, and so she will never fully understand what it is like.
“But I will never be black, no matter how hard I try. That is the truth, and we have to accept it. And therefore, I will never be able to say to Gemma, ‘I understand how you feel because this happened to me,’ she shared.”
While situations as such can never be controlled, they can always be prevented, especially when it comes to children interacting with their peers. A simple form of bullying may make a significant impact on a child’s development, and so awareness is key to a safer environment.
Communication is essential to know the different experiences of children as they may not always opt to tell an adult about a situation where they were made to feel lower than they are. Also, being aware of changes in a child’s attitude significant in awareness.
Encouraging a child is also critical in helping to overcome difficult situations. An inspiring of a bullied girl turned model circulated social media last year and motivated many to be the best they can.
19-year-old Aeva Anderson spent her childhood being bullied for her height of 6”2. When she was only 13, Anderson was told she was ‘plus-sized’ because of her height and size, which eventually broke the teenager's heart.
Yet Anderson persevered and motivated herself, despite harsh criticisms. When she grew older, she began a career in modeling until she worked with big brands leading to her success.