July 30, 2019

Meghan Markle Left ‘Speechless’ by Michelle Obama's Advice on Motherhood

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Meghan Markle became the first-ever co-editor for the September issue of British Vogue, and as part of her plan to highlight women who are “Forces for change,” she decided to close the issue with a candid Q&A with former first lady, Michelle Obama.

“Being a mother has been a masterclass in letting go. Try as we might, there’s only so much we can control. And, boy, have I tried – especially at first.” That’s how Michelle Obama started her first answer to a Q&A about motherhood specially curated by the Duchess of Sussex, Meghan Markle.

Michelle Obama speaks on stage at The United State of Women Summit 2018 - Day 1 on May 5, 2018. | Photo: GettyImages



The upcoming September issue of British Vogue, which Markle co-edited with editor-in-chief Edward Enninful, was conceived as an opportunity to highlight 15 women and their efforts to make a difference in the world.

With such a wide array of inspiring personalities in the cover and the body of the magazine, Meghan Markle found herself wondering what the best way would be to close the issue.

Then, she realized British Vogue has a back page Q&A feature with a special guest every month, so she needed to find the perfect woman for the spot.


Meghan, Duchess of Sussex visit the National Kiwi Hatchery at Rainbow Springs on October 31, 2018 in Rotorua, New Zealand. | Photo: GettyImages

“My first thought was that it needed to be someone kind, inspirational, motivating, funny, with gravitas and as much depth as levity. My second thought: it needed to be Michelle Obama,” she admitted in the issue.


Markle told Obama about the secret project over “a casual lunch of chicken tacos and my ever-burgeoning bump,” and the former first lady gracefully accepted.


The Duchess sent Obama the questions via email, and after receiving the answers, she admitted to being “somewhat speechless” by the “thoughtful, reflective and beautifully curated narrative” with which Michelle answered a series of “simple questions,” mostly about parenting.

Barack and Michelle Obama, and daughters Sasha and Malia, arrive at the White House August 23, 2015 in Washington, D.C. | Photo: GettyImages


"Time expands and contracts; each moment holds its own little eternity. I’m so excited for you and Harry to experience that, Meghan." - Michelle Obama.

“Motherhood has taught me that, most of the time, my job is to give them the space to explore and develop into the people they want to be,” Obama admitted when asked about lessons from motherhood. “Not who I want them to be or who I wish I was at that age, but who they are, deep inside.”

Meghan, Duchess of Sussex attends the Women's Singles Final of the Wimbledon Tennis Championships on July 13, 2019. | Photo: GettyImages


“Motherhood has also taught me that my job is not to bulldoze a path for them in an effort to eliminate all possible adversity. But instead, I need to be a safe and consistent place for them to land when they inevitably fail; and to show them, again and again, how to get up on their own.”


Markle, 37, who welcomed her first son with Prince Harry in May, asked Michelle what advise she would give her daughters, and if she would offer a different one to a son.

“It would be exactly the same,” Obama admitted.


Michelle Obama at the 2019 Essence Festival. | Photo: GettyImages

And added:

“Don’t just check the boxes you think you’re supposed to check, like I did when I was their age. I tell them that I hope they’ll keep trying on new experiences until they find what feels right […] What I hope my daughters will realize a little earlier is that there is no prescribed path, that it’s OK to swerve, and that the confidence they need to recognize that will come with time.”



Obama also reflected on the early stages of motherhood, admitting that, although her and Barack Obama’s favorite sound was their daughters’ baby sounds, “early parenthood is exhausting.”

Still, the mother of two admitted there’s something magical about having a baby in the house.

Prince Harry, Duke of Sussex and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, pose with their newborn son Archie Harrison Mountbatten-Windsor during a photocall in St George's Hall at Windsor Castle on May 8, 2019. | Photo: GettyImages


“Time expands and contracts; each moment holds its own little eternity. I’m so excited for you and Harry to experience that, Meghan,” she told the Duchess. And advised her:

“Savour it all.”

Meghan, Duchess of Sussex and Archie Harrison Mountbatten-Windsor attend the King Power Royal Charity Polo Match on July 10, 2019. | Photo: GettyImages



Markle couldn’t be happier with the result of her Q&A with Obama and the overall “Forces for change” issue.

The cover, which is divided into 16 frames to highlight each of the 15 changemaker women in the issue, also includes a 16th spot that will be printed as a silver reflective mirror at Markle’s request.

The mirror is to make the reader feel included and to encourage them to use their own platform to make a change.

“I hope readers feel as inspired as I do, by the ‘Forces for Change’ they’ll find within these pages,” Markle told the publication.