April 09, 2021
Clarissa brought her boyfriend, James, to her parent's home during passover, but things didn't go well after he ruined a tradition.
Clarissa decided to have her boyfriend, James, spend passover with her family. It was a large get-together that included her brothers and sisters, who all had little kids. James is a Jehovah's Witness, and they don't celebrate the same way Clarissa does.
It's always been a tradition for the 25-year-old's parents to make the festivities special by leaving a glass of wine for prophet Elijah. Her parents always used to convince the kids that Elijah might come by.
The evening went great, and everyone enjoyed Clarissa's boyfriend's company. As a tradition, the very next day, her parents looked at the glass with the kids and saw that it was already empty.
But really, it was Clarissa's boyfriend James who drank it before the kids were up. Her parents had told James that they do not pretend Elijah came, unlike Christmas when Santa comes or Easter with the Easter bunny.
James took the tradition with a grain of salt. Just as Clarissa's nieces and nephews were getting all excited, thinking Elijah came, and seeing that the wine was gone, he decided to tell them that he drank it.
He expected that she should have defended him against the parents.
Clarissa's parents were quick to intervene to ensure that the kids thought that James was drank it by accident, reassuring them that Elijah did not come by and drink the wine that they prepared.
When it was just Clarissa and her boyfriend left at my parents' place, they pulled him aside to let him know that disrespecting their tradition by drinking the wine was uncalled for, and it ruined passover.
Clarissa's mom explained that the tradition meant a lot for the family, all the more for giving the children a great experience while young. Clarissa knew this meant a lot for her parents, and so she didn't defend James at all.
As someone joining their family for the event, the least he could have done was understand the family traditions. James was really upset with Clarissa after and started giving her the silent treatment.
He expected that she should have defended him against the parents. Although James did apologize to them, he didn't think the tradition was a big deal given his different experiences growing up.
Do you think Clarissa should have defended James? For similar arguments between couples, read about why a woman refused to pay for her husband's dinner and their financial situation together.