September 23, 2021
A woman on Reddit got into a heated argument with her relatives after her mother humiliated her fiance during a family dinner. The woman then told them they weren't going to attend her wedding until they apologized.
A Redditors family made a habit of making fun of her husband whenever they came around. The woman then asked her mother to apologize to her husband, which she agreed to do over a family dinner. However, it soon became apparent that her mother had other intentions, and their night quickly turned sour.
Most people don't like to apologize. Whether it is because of their own pride or their ego, they refuse to be the bigger person even when they're in the wrong. One Redditor’s mom was so good at humiliating her future son-in-law that she never missed a chance to embarrass him, but then one day, she took things too far.
WOMAN GIVES FAMILY AN ULTIMATUM AFTER THEY INSULTED HER FIANCE
Have you ever brought your soulmate home in the past only to have your parents mistreat them? Unfortunately, one Redditor did, and she decided to stand up to her family and uninvited them to her wedding. It all began when her mother called her fiance “unmanly” for not having a beard/mustache. Then things gradually got worse; in her post, the woman said:
“She invited the whole family for dinner and decided it was the perfect time to hand Kevin his wedding gift. He thanked her but she insisted that he open it right there and then and show everyone what she got him since she knew him that well already. He opened the box and found a set of shaving tools with a shaving cream.”
The Redditor demanded an apology from her mother, but as usual, the older woman refused. She was infuriated and told her mom that she wouldn’t get a wedding invitation until she apologized and walked out!
RELATIONSHIPS ARE MORE COMPLICATED THAN THEY MAY SEEM
When you’re the one who hurt your partner or relative, the process of offering compassion and comfort is much more complicated. Another person dished out on Reddit why he wanted his fiancé to choose between her family and him after an inevitable conflict. Posting about the incident on Reddit, he said:
“I bluntly said her mom is indeed making this a game and told my fianceé she’s either with me or against on this issue. She either backs me up or there won’t be anymore wedding planning.”
The significant conflict surfaced when the mother talked her daughter into changing the wedding venue according to her choice. Maybe the Redditor’s fiancé could’ve taken her beau’s side, but she didn’t. Instead, she tried convincing him to accept the inconvenience as a token of their wedding gift, saying her parents had paid a lot of money for the venue.
One Redditor met his future brother-in-law at his parents’ place since he lives out of town with his wife and two kids. The worst scenario would be blending family life with someone who hates kids, and Tim, the future brother-in-law, proved to be more of an antagonist in this context. The Redditor shared his story in his post, adding:
“Tim doesn’t like kids. He’s made it clear how much he’s uncomfortable being around them. Every time I brought my kids to my parents house. Tim’d start acting out. He tried to in-directly ban the kids from visiting their grandparents house.”
The Redditor blocked Tim and cut ties with his sister for locking his kids at his wedding. No parent would accommodate a person who does a cruel deed to their kids. On that note, maybe this Redditor was right in kicking his brother-in-law and his supporters out of his house. Several people shared their opinions and scorned what Tim did to the person’s kids.
YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW
Though there are several ways to comfort someone you messed up with, you cannot be sure that the other person has accepted your apology and moved on. Sometimes, people reap what they sow. One Redditor dad narrated how his daughter from a previous marriage never got along with his stepdaughter and added:
“Now the issue is that Allie wants Johanna to let things go and let bygones be bygones. Johanna is getting married soon, and Allie wants an invite.”
Johanna and Allie were both introduced to each other after the Redditor married Johanna’s mother. While Allie could’ve been a better sister, she was determined not to accommodate her step-sister in her life. She knowingly neglected Johanna, despite the latter’s efforts to stay on good terms with her.
A ROCKY RELATIONSHIP
All hell broke loose when Allie broke up with her boyfriend and got her grades tanked. She vented her anger on Johanna and did things that completely upset everyone. “Allie was upset and was taking it out on everyone, especially Johanna,” the Redditor said, adding more details about Johanna's wedding:
“Allie also asked what she should wear to Johanna’s wedding and if she’d be a bridesmaid. Johanna pretty much laid it out for Allie that she wasn’t coming and that the kids wouldn’t be seeing each other outside of family events.”
Several Redditors shared their views on the matter, and some argued that the Redditor failed to sort things out between the two step-sisters much earlier. Another user appreciated the Redditor for backing up Johanna but left a comment questioning his responsibilities as a parent.
A SIMPLE "SORRY" GOES A LONG WAY
An apology can be very challenging and significantly affect relationships. Expressing your emotions and weaknesses may not be your strong suit. However, it can comfort your loved ones when they know you are genuinely sorry for your mistake.
Most of us think differently about being apologetic. For some, it might be ample to hear words like “I’m sorry for what I did” after a fight. And for others, the words “I’m sorry” could feel empty and like a flimsy way of moving past it.
An apology can sometimes be healing and can even mend a fractured relationship in the long run. So, when was the last time you apologized to someone?
And do you think the Redditor’s mother should apologize to her future son-in-law for shaming him? Your comments are much appreciated! Thanks for reading!
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