Parents Give Their Son Up for Adoption as an Infant, 15 Years Later They Beg Him for Help
After realizing he was their only hope, the man's birth parents reached out begging for a favor to save his dying dad's life by donating his bone marrow. But to their disbelief, he refused to help and said he didn't care if the man died.
A young man sparked debate on Reddit for not wanting to donate his bone marrow to his biological dad. Unsurprisingly, the people on the internet felt he was on the right track and sided with him after reading his whole story.
Posting under Ok-Programmer382 on the "AITA" sub, the man said he was adopted and lived a happy life with his new adoptive parents. However, things took a different turn when his birth parents reached out, pleading for a favor to save his dad's life.
The young man refused to save his dad's life & people online said he was right. | Source: Pexels
The Original Poster (OP) was less than a month old when he was put into foster care. His adoptive parents met him there and instantly decided that he was the one. It took them two years to finalize the adoption and take OP home.
OP had four siblings and lived a great life with his new parents. When he turned into an adult, his parents didn't want to keep any secrets from him and told him he was their adopted son.
They bombed his foster parents with nasty messages and even threatened to sue him to donate his marrow.
But their revelation didn't make any difference to OP as he was happy where fate brought him. Other than knowing he was adopted, OP had no idea who his biological parents were and what they looked like.
OP was only a month old when he was put in foster care. | Source: Unsplash
From what his foster parents told him, OP realized that his birth parents didn't give him away happily but that he "was taken" since "It wasn't a good environment for a child." Their rights were then terminated on OP.
Considering such crushing facts, OP felt he was indeed blessed that his foster parents found him and adopted him. For years, OP never heard from his birth parents. But one day, they unexpectedly reached out to his adoptive parents, pleading to save his birth dad's life.
OP's biological dad was sick and needed an immediate bone marrow transplant. They were on a waitlist, and since nothing turned up, they assumed the odds of OP being a match as he was their only child.
The couple wanted OP's foster parents to test him so that he could proceed with the donation. However, OP's adoptive parents left it to him to decide. After a deep thought, OP refused.
OP's dad needed a bone marrow transplant & OP was his only hope. | Source: Pexels
He didn't want to waste time looking back at the two people he never knew other than they gave birth to him. OP was livid with them for turning to him only when they needed his help.
He decided not to be a goldmine for his dad's genetic requirement and stood his ground. However, OP's denial didn't go too well with his birth parents. They bombed his foster parents with nasty messages and even threatened to sue him to donate his marrow.
Although OP felt a bit bad for his dying father, he asserted that the man wasn't his responsibility and that his emergency wasn't his problem. He was confident about his decision and asked fellow Redditors their opinions.
OP decided not to look back at his birth parents due to the emotional scars they left on him. | Source: Pexels
After reading OP's dilemma, people flooded him with overwhelming support and declared him faultless. "I'm no doctor, but I hear donating bone marrow can be a very risky procedure," the post's top-voted commenter ProjectCrazed stated, adding:
"I almost burst out laughing in the freaking office when I read they'd sue you to force you. They'll be laughed out of court.... assuming they even get that far."
While some felt OP was lucky to have his foster parents' back on the matter, others claimed that his birth parents wouldn't stand a chance in court to make him do something he didn't want to undergo.
"I get that it's stressful for them, and they're looking for outlets to vent their grief and frustration. But resorting to personal attacks and threats of litigation? Yeah, Nah. Full stop," user UberN00b719 proclaimed.
As the discussion magnified, some felt in OP's shoes and shared what they would do if this happened to them.
"No one can force you to donate bone marrow. I would save all the messages in case you need to report them for harassment later," Redditor Katy_moxie expressed.
People on Reddit claimed OP's birth parents' case wouldn't stand in court if they sued him. | Source: Pexels
In the end, OP stood firm with his decision and claimed he didn't owe his birth parents anything. "I don't care if she spent 8 hours in labor with me. They aren't my family. I have a wonderful family who are supporting me right now," he stated.
Since his adoption was a closed one, OP's foster parents were baffled about how his birth parents tracked him and decided to find out how they managed to do this. "My dad told them he will contact the police if they keep trying," OP firmly stated.
OP never changed his mind till the end & decided not to help his birth dad. | Source: Pexels
Questions to Ponder:
Do you think OP should save the man's life, at least considering him a stranger and not his birth dad who left him to be taken away?
OP refused to donate his bone marrow to his birth dad because his biological parents never played a part in his life and only turned to him when they needed his help. OP firmly stated that he didn't owe them anything and never knew them personally. If you were OP, would you save the man's life, or would you recall past scars and refuse to help?
Is it acceptable when estranged parents/relatives reach out only when they need a favor?
For years, OP never heard from his birth parents, and he had no idea what they looked like. But they unexpectedly reached out to his adoptive parents to help save his birth dad's life. What would you do if your estranged parents/relatives turned to you only for a favor?
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