Would you allow your friend to steal the limelight at your wedding ceremony by proposing to their girlfriend? One Redditor refused to let her best friend propose to his girlfriend at her wedding, and he got upset, so she turned to Reddit for answers.
Everyone wants their wedding day to be extraordinary. Women start hunting for the best wedding gown months in advance while men think of where to go for their bachelor party. The bride and groom are the centers of everyone's attention that day, and the idea of someone else stealing the limelight doesn't sound too good to them.
You might wonder, why is it so crucial for people to propose at someone else's big day? It isn't right to steal the limelight from the bride and groom when you can propose to your loved one during the rest of the 364 days. It's the romantic atmosphere and the emotional feelings that push people to take this step. But is it OK?
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IS IT OK TO PROPOSE AT SOMEONE ELSE'S WEDDING?
Ever since the story of a bride who arranged a surprise proposal for her best friend at her own wedding went viral, people have discussed whether it's right for someone to propose at a wedding. The bride decided to share her big day with her best friend as a way of saying thank you for everything she had done for her.
She talked to her best friend's boyfriend and convinced him to propose to the girl during the wedding ceremony. He was initially reluctant since he didn't want all the attention but later agreed after the bride insisted. The moment he bent down on his knees, everyone's eyes locked on him, and the girl was shocked.
The proposal did divert everyone's attention from the bride and groom to the new couple, but they didn't mind. The bride's idea of sharing her big day with her friend is unique because not everyone would be willing to do that. According to an etiquette specialist, it's unacceptable to propose to your loved one at someone else's wedding.
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They added that it's a memorable moment for the couple and another proposal might not be a good idea. However, if the proposal is pre-planned and the bride and groom are ok with it, then there's no issue. They should still try to place the proposal at the end of the wedding ceremony.
The viral girl who surprised her best friend gave the flowers to her instead of throwing them during the bouquet tossing ceremony. The man was kneeling on the ground with a ring in his hand when the girl turned around. The proposal didn't ruin the wedding ceremony because it happened at the end of the day. The bride said:
"I got married to my soul mate, celebrated with my friends and family and after the perfect day we had, to then get to see and be a part of ‘My person’ becoming engaged was truly magical"
She didn't feel jealous when her best friend's boyfriend proposed to her, but not everyone thinks like that. The girl was fortunate to have a best friend like the bride. She let her steal the limelight and experience how it feels to be loved. The bride proved to be the perfect "best friend."
Bride holding flowers | Source: Unsplash
SHE REFUSED TO LET HER BEST FRIEND PROPOSE AT HER WEDDING
Here's an interesting story that shows not everyone is the same. A Redditor revealed that she rejected her best friend's request to propose at her wedding because she didn't want to share the limelight.
She explained to her friend that she couldn't allow him to propose to his girlfriend of 11 years at her wedding. She offered to help him with the proposal if they rescheduled it, but her friend got offended. His girlfriend was the bride's maid of honor, and she stopped talking to her after this incident.
After the wedding ceremony, the guy told the girl that the bride ruined her chance of getting engaged. He made it sound like the Redditor didn't want the girl to be happy. She explained her side of the story to the maid of honor, but she blamed her for everything.
Upset woman with hand on her head | Source: Pexels
After looking at her friends' behavior, the Redditor asked other users if she was at fault, and they assured her that she wasn't. They blamed the guy for acting immature and not realizing that it's not right to grab everyone's attention at someone else's wedding ceremony. Another Redditor commented:
"He says marriages are about “celebrating love”—yeah—the BRIDE AND GROOM’S love. Smh at bf’s audacity here."
Most people said that if the bride wasn't comfortable sharing her big day with someone else, there's nothing wrong with it. Her friends should understand her feelings and respect her decision without getting offended.
Most users said that the bride's friends shouldn't be offended. If the bride agreed to share her big day with her friend, the guy could have proposed to the girl. If she disagreed, then they should just accept it and happily enjoy her wedding. Another Redditor commented:
If the man really wanted to propose to the girl, he could have done it any other day. Most users agreed that the man wasn't serious about the proposal. He just found an excuse for not proposing when the bride rejected her request. A user commented:
HOW TO PROPOSE AT SOMEONE ELSE'S WEDDING
If you plan to steal the limelight and kneel before your girlfriend with a wedding ring, don't forget to ask the bride and groom first. If they say no, then respect their decision and try to understand why they refused.
A wedding ceremony is meant to celebrate the union of two people: the bride and the groom. You don't need to divert everyone's attention from them by proposing to your girlfriend. No bride would like to see another woman receiving all the attention on her big day.
Bride and groom standing between the guests | Source: Unsplash
People put in a lot of effort in planning their big day. The venue, decor, dinner menu, clothes―they put the effort in selecting the best stuff for their wedding ceremony, and watching someone else take the limelight that day surely offends them. So, if you're planning to do something like that, think again!
What do you think about this topic? Should men propose to their girlfriends during other people's wedding ceremonies? Or will it be counted as being selfish? Leave a comment to let us know what you think. We'd love to know your opinions.
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