October 31, 2021
When Redditor Throwaway07052020 woke up about a year ago, he never thought his life would change. But when his girlfriend went for a run and never came back, it changed in a snap.
The Original Poster (OP) was at a loss as to what could have happened to his young wife of six years. Their relationship was going on smoothly, and this made it harder for him to comprehend.
At the time he sought advice, he was 33, and his girlfriend was 32. There had been no history of cheating, and he would have said they had the perfect relationship. But was it perfect?
For OP, that Monday evening was a day like no other. Everything seemed fine, and his wife went for her usual run. However, things went awry when she didn't return.
She didn't leave home with anything unusual so there was no reason for him to suspect that she was never coming back. Instead, he panicked and waited for her to return. Unfortunately, OP did not give details about looking for her in his story.
Woman out for her evening run | Photo: Pexels
He only revealed that the next day, she called him. Though the call should have been a relief, it turned into a nightmare for OP because it was not what he expected at all.
She only called him out of courtesy to inform him that she was marrying her ex, who had reached out to her recently. As if that wasn't enough, she told him she never loved him and was never coming back.
While listening to her explain he began to feel numb while thinking how this could have happened. How could his life turn around in just a matter of hours? He was devasted.
Woman calling to inform him of her decisions | Photo: Pexels
The blow was too hard for him to handle. His girlfriend had left all her things in their apartment, and he didn't know what to do with them. Though painful, a user advised him saying,
"She did you the biggest favor of your life. If she's capable of doing this, she's capable of ANYTHING, and she is now someone else's problem."
Other users encouraged him to stay strong, to cut all contact with her. Some even went on to advise that instead of returning her stuff, he should just throw it out.
Confused man wondering what to do | Photo: Pexels
WAYS TO KNOW YOUR PARTNER WILL CHEAT
Even though the relationship looked perfect, it wasn't! A magazine article recently shared advice on how to know if your partner cheats on you and listed telltale signs to look for.
Little things to look for are if a partner starts lying about money, telling white lies, keeping in touch with their exes, flirting online, looking to others for emotional support, guarding their phones, getting jealous easily, and more.
If these are happening one needs to have an honest conversation with them. It's important to remember that one cannot prevent all cheating, but communication helps build trust and creates a healthy relationship.
Man guarding his phone from partner | Photo: Shutterstock
WHAT THE OP FINALLY DID
Unfortunately, for OP he had not noticed any of the signs and was unprepared. After everything went south, he contacted her parents, and her mother had told him not to be too sad and insisted that he should be happy for his ex.
The OP eventually decided he needed to get rid of her stuff and called a friend to help him move all her belongings to a storage unit. Once done, he called her father and told him where to pick up the stuff from.
Man moving her things out of the house | Photo: Pexels
He was able to put his life back together and start moving on. He survived the ordeal and revealed that he was lucky not to lose his job because the breakup took such a toll on his mental health that he had slacked off.
But just when things were starting to pick up for him, her mother called him out of the blue. Rather than ask how he had been faring, she went ahead to ask him to visit his ex at the hospital.
She revealed that his ex-girlfriend had been hospitalized after attempting suicide because she had suffered a mental breakdown. Even though he still cared, he told her mother not to contact him again.
Woman in hospital after attempting suicide | Photo: Pexels
He was happy he had the strength to tell her off, and other users also agreed and congratulated him for making the tough call. One said, "well done, leave her well alone."
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If you or someone you know is considering suicide, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), text "help" to the Crisis Text Line at 741-741, or go to suicidepreventionlifeline.org.