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Nicole Kidman Was Deprived of Attending Her Own Son’s Wedding

Karabo Baloyi
Jan 27, 2022
12:20 P.M.
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When Connor Cruise married in 2019, his mother, Nicole Kidman’s noted absence immediately raised questions. Possible reasons pointed to Tom Cruise and the Church of Scientology being at the center of Nicole's absence from her son’s wedding.


In 1989, actors Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise met on the set of “Days of Thunder.” A whirlwind romance followed, and the couple married just over a year later. They immediately set out to start their family, but fertility challenges led to Nicole losing her first pregnancy.


The couple decided to adopt their first two children, Connor Cruise (26), and Bella Cruise (29), through the Church of Scientology as they were both born to parents who could not take care of them. Tom filed for divorce after Nicole’s second miscarriage in 2001, and he retained custody of both children, who were later homeschooled by Tom’s sister, Cass.


Nicole Kidman speaks during the HBO segment of the 2020 Winter TCA Press Tour at The Langham, Huntington, Pasadena on Januaray 15 2020I Photo: Amy Sussman/Getty Images

Nicole and Tom tried to keep their children from the paparazzi. Even as adults, they both choose to keep a low profile. Connor has enjoyed a booming DJing career from the age of 16. He even released a track under "Spinnin’ Records" sister record label, "Oxygen." Bella is an artist, and she released her first clothing line in May 2020. 


Although Nicole has not been photographed with her oldest children since 2006, she has repeatedly spoken about how devoted she is to her children:

"They are generous, kind and hardworking,  And these are traits that I love to see in my children. They live with Tom, which was their choice. I’d love them to live with us, but what can you do?"

Connor Cruise at Temple Nightclub on January 29, 2016 in San Francisco | Photo: Getty Images


Both Connor and Bella are still devout members of the Church of Scientology, which is often blamed for dividing many families, including Nicole and her two oldest children. 


Following her divorce from Tom, Nicole was labeled a “Suppressive Person,” a term given by the church to non-believers and those who have left the church. SPs are essentially enemies of the church.

The church’s official website states “For the good of the Church and the individuals in it, such a person is labeled a Suppressive Person so that others will know not to associate with them.”


Nicole's absence from her son's wedding in 2019 raised suspicions about whether she was banned from the wedding and, if so, by whom.

Sources revealed to Radar Online that Tom would have been the one to ban Nicole from Connor’s wedding because of the power Tom has in his family, “Tom is behind this and what he wants is as good as law. Tom made the call, and Connor followed.”

Sources also claimed that Tom barred Nicole from the wedding because he did not want her to attend, and her status as a Suppressive Person meant she would not have been welcome to attend anyway.

Connor Cruise and Tom Cruise at a Lakers basketball game at Staples Center on March 27, 2011 in Los Angeles| Photo: Getty Images



Prior to his wedding with fellow Scientologist, Sylvia Zanchi, Connor slowed his career down to focus on his other passion, fishing. Connor has since created a food Instagram account: “Connor’s Meatshack,” which chronicles his love for barbecuing.

His personal Instagram features his many fishing trips and images of his catches. Bella recently released a fashion line inspired by her mom, the Covid-19 Pandemic, and Tiger King.


Although Nicole has always been vague about her relationship with her older children, reports about the relationship being tense have often surfaced  Actress and former Scientologist, Leah Remini, described the tense relationship in her memoir, "Troublemaker: Surviving Hollywood and Scientology." 


Both of her older children have spoken out about rumors regarding their tense relationship, and both of them have shown support for their mother despite the rumors.

Nicole Kidman with Connor and Bella Cruise | Photo: Getty Images


In the book, Leah asked the children, “Hey, guys  How’s your mom  Do you see her a lot?” Nicole’s oldest daughter responded, “Not if I have a choice,” and went on to call her mom an SP.

Despite claims that Nicole’s relationship with her oldest children is strained, she has always spoken of her love for them  In a recent "Who Australia" interview, Nicole spoke of how proud she was of the adults they had become and chose to keep their lives private out of respect for them.

Both of her older children have spoken out about rumors regarding their tense relationship, and both of them have shown support for their mother despite the rumors.


Connor Cruise at the XXX marquee during Stakes Day at Flemington Racecourse on November 9, 2013 in Melbourne, Australia | Photo: Getty Images

 "I love my mom  I don't care what people say, I know that me and mom are solid  I love her a lot  My family means everything  Yeah, I love my music, but the family comes before everything else," said Connor in a 2016 interview.


Despite rumors regarding a strain in her relationship with her older children due to their religious affiliations, she has decided to respect their  desire to lead low-profile lives.

Currently, Nicole is married to country-rock star Keith Urban  They got married in 2006 after dating for just over a year  Her only successful pregnancy led to the birth of her daughter Sunday Rose (14)  Her younger sister, Faith Margaret (12), was born two years later through a surrogate.

She explained, "The most important things to me are the love of our relationship and my children  At this stage of my life, and with time being so precious, the joy I get from us as a family outweighs any joy in any other area of my life, by far."

Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban arrive at Sydney airport with their daughters Faith Margaret and Sunday Rose on, March 27 2017, Sydney, Australia | Photo: Getty Images


Nicole has consistently expressed affection for all of her children  Regardless of the rumors regarding a damaged relationship with her older children due to their religious affiliations, she has decided to respect their desire to lead low-profile lives.

The actress also keeps her younger children away from the spotlight and continues to raise them with husband Keith Urban between Australia and the United States.