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A man in the military holding his child | Source: Shutterstock
A man in the military holding his child | Source: Shutterstock

During Deployment, Veteran Checks Bank Account of Wife and Suspects Her of Infidelity

Salwa Nadeem
Nov 25, 2023
06:00 A.M.

While a man was deployed in Afghanistan, he often checked his bills online to ensure the auto-payment option worked correctly. One day, he opened up his credit card bill and scrolled through the transaction history, and found something unusual.

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The man confessed that an unusual transaction caught his attention, so he quickly thought of the reasons that might have compelled his wife to spend the money.

Since he couldn't think of a good reason, he casually mentioned the transaction while talking to his wife on Skype and saw her expression change.

Veteran suspects his wife of infidelity during deployment  | Source: Shutterstock

Veteran suspects his wife of infidelity during deployment | Source: Shutterstock

The Redditor with the username Aggravating-Ad-5793 opened up about the transaction years after discovering it. He had also noticed a few extra dinners out when he went through the transaction history.

Since his wife was alone with the kids, he thought a few extra dinners weren't alarming for him. He knew how difficult it must be for his wife to handle the children alone. However, one particular transaction set his alarm bells ringing. It was for "an airline ticket to a tourist destination on the other side of the country," he shared.

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OP's wife had bought an airline ticket | Source: Unsplash

OP's wife had bought an airline ticket | Source: Unsplash

The trip was also booked in advance. "I had almost 6 months left on my deployment. The transaction had been processed several weeks prior," the OP explained. He couldn't think of any reason why his wife would book a single ticket to a tourist destination.

Furious, OP told her that he would call child protective services.

When he spoke to her on Skype the next time, he casually mentioned the ticket. Surprised, she asked him how he knew, unaware of how online banking worked.

He asked her about the ticket while talking to her on Skype | Source: Unsplash

He asked her about the ticket while talking to her on Skype | Source: Unsplash

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When OP told her he accessed it through the card's transaction history, she said she was going on a "mental health retreat" with her co-workers because she felt exhausted after taking care of the children alone.

The man replied that he understood she needed a break, but he felt she should have discussed it with him before purchasing a ticket for a trip that would leave their children without any parents. He recalled:

"Then I asked her who would be taking care of the children for the week she was gone."

OP was worried for his children | Source: Unsplash

OP was worried for his children | Source: Unsplash

OP's (Original Poster's) wife replied that a 16-year-old neighbor girl would look after the children. Furious, OP told her that he would call child protective services if she left the children without an adult in the house. So his wife agreed to call her mother and ask her to stay with the children while she was away.

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A day before the trip, OP called his wife, but her phone was unreachable. "I called my mother-in-law to check on the kids and she told me my wife had left earlier in the day to spend the night in a hotel next to the airport," he explained:

OP called his mother-in-law because he couldn't reach his wife | Source: Unsplash

OP called his mother-in-law because he couldn't reach his wife | Source: Unsplash

OP found it strange that his wife would spend the night in a hotel near the airport. He waited for a hotel charge to appear in his bank transactions, but that never happened.

He also waited for charges to appear in his transaction history from his wife's travel destination, but he didn't find anything. The peculiarity of the trip had started making him suspicious.

So while his wife was away from home, the man started reviewing her call logs and discovered that she was frequently in contact with one number. She had been in touch with the same number for a very long time.

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He discovered that she had been talking to someone for a long time | Source: Unsplash

He discovered that she had been talking to someone for a long time | Source: Unsplash

The man asked his wife to send him pictures of the trip to clear his doubts. She replied that she didn't take any pictures. Then he asked her to tell him the names of his co-workers. He recalled:

"She gave me one name but would not give me the last name or the department that this woman supposedly worked in."

His wife's answers made him look at her with growing suspicion. So he confronted her about the number she had remained in contact with the entire time. He asked her why she wasn't in contact with that person while on the trip and then abruptly hung up.

He confronted her about the number | Source: Pexels

He confronted her about the number | Source: Pexels

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Before their next call, OP had already confirmed that there was no female co-worker on the trip. He immediately confronted her and made her admit that she went on the "retreat" with a man. He recounted:

"She eventually admitted that it was a male coworker but still claimed everyone else backed out on her"

She also admitted that she had spent multiple nights with the same man in one hotel room, and this infuriated OP, who was tired of her lies and immediately demanded a divorce. He accused her of cheating and told her he didn't want to live with her anymore.

She admitted living in the same room with the man | Source: Unsplash

She admitted living in the same room with the man | Source: Unsplash

In an attempt to stop him, the woman bawled and asked her children to hold the phone as she went down on her knees, begging him not to leave her. He ended the call and didn't talk to her until he returned home. He picked up his clothes and uniforms because he had decided to move.

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The woman begged him not to leave him. She offered to stay in an open marriage or a sexless one, but OP refused. He said he would consider not divorcing her if she confessed every detail honestly.

She didn't want OP to leave her | Source: Unsplash

She didn't want OP to leave her | Source: Unsplash

She told him everything starting from when she met the man for the first time, but OP knew she was lying. Before he left the house, he asked her if she was still in contact with him and according to OP:

"She said she "could if I really wanted her to""

He said he wanted her to stop talking to him, so she agreed. Four days later, the man had to leave for New York with his children, but he didn't. He stayed back, while his wife thought they had left.

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The man had to leave for New York with his children | Source: Unsplash

The man had to leave for New York with his children | Source: Unsplash

He tracked her phone on a locator app and saw that she was at a restaurant. After he saw that her phone was back home, he went there to talk to her and saw something he would never forget. He recalled:

"I waited until the tracker showed her back at home waited a few minutes and walked in on her and affair partner in our bedroom."

OP later discovered that the man had been regularly visiting his house, and his children knew him very well. They had spent a lot of time together as a family when OP was deployed overseas.

The man had been living in their house | Source: Unsplash

The man had been living in their house | Source: Unsplash

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After that incident, OP got full custody of his children while his wife begged him to take her back. He confessed that he tried to forgive her, but he couldn't because she had put his children through the worst.

Most Redditors felt bad for OP after reading his post. PaPaKAPture said things like these were typical for military men, writing:

"I am sorry, but it sounds like you made back from Hell, twice. Thanks for your service."

OP posted his story on Reddit | Source: Unsplash

OP posted his story on Reddit | Source: Unsplash

Meanwhile, sampa2nyc praised OP for not falling for his wife's gaslighting because what she did was wrong and could have put their children in danger.

People wondered how OP got full custody of his children | Source: Pexels

People wondered how OP got full custody of his children | Source: Pexels

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Other Redditors felt bad for OP and praised him for his mental strength. Some also asked him how he got full custody of his children. The father explained that he made a choice not to reveal their children's ages, and without giving away too much, he said the youngest one was still in diapers and the oldest was old enough to realize the mother was having an affair.

Additionally, the man revealed that their eldest child did not have the best relationship with the mother. He admitted that his ex's friends and family were shocked at the custody outcome, but they also knew that the mother was not completely honest about what was happening.

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The father was also met with skepticism by the person working on his case because she thought the OP wanted full custody so that he could have an advantage in the property settlement. But after speaking to everyone who knew his ex-wife, she ended up giving the court the go-ahead to put the kids in his care.

The Reddit user gave another update. He stated that the children were fine and had minimal interaction with their mother. However, he notified his ex's affair partner's girlfriend and their parents but made sure not to jeopardize anyone's job.

Questions to Ponder:

Do you think OP should have grilled his wife more when he saw the unusual transaction for the first time?

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OP casually mentioned the airline ticket while talking to his wife, to which she lied. If he pressed further, which he didn't, there's a chance he would have gotten out some truth from her and this may have had implications on her trip.

If the wife was honest from the start, do you think there was a greater chance for OP to forgive her?

OP gave his wife a chance to come clean but she still lied and he saw through it, strengthening his decision to leave her. If OP's wife had been just totally honest with him, maybe OP would have considered giving her a second chance.

If you enjoyed reading this story, you might like this one about a woman who was returning home at night when some unknown men chased her. She saw a stranger smiling and asked him for help.

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