A man who was never his parents' golden child shared how his father guilt-tripped him into surrendering an enormous estate from his late grandpa.
A young man brought to Reddit's "AITA" forum yet another true story of how an ugly money war got in the way between him and his parents who never wanted to give birth to him initially.
Posting under WeHighAssPlanes on the Reddit community, he asked random strangers online to judge him for giving the cold shoulder to his financially desperate parents while exposing why he was compelled to do it in the first place.
The grandpa left an enormous heritage to only one heir while cutting off his financially desperate son. | Source: Shutterstock
The Original Poster (OP) said he was a business engineer with adequate knowledge and know-how of money handling. But growing up, he never had a rosy childhood, at least not when his parents were around.
The reason stemmed from his birth as OP's parents never planned to have a baby. However, they decided to keep him and get married. But they were new to parenting and, like most working parents, left him under the care and custody of his paternal grandparents.
Although OP got accustomed to his grandparents' upbringing widely inclusive of their morals and values, he became rebellious after they criticized his gender choices. This is where the plight slowly started to take shape in the family.
OP's parents criticized him for his gender orientation. | Source: Pexels
The debate surrounding his gender orientation often turned intense, with OP mostly hurling rude and cheeky remarks to his parents. Despite explaining his side, they never listened and often grounded him for no reason.
The man suspected something was sketchy, particularly involving his parents' rush to get a quick bailout.
OP's parents emotionally cornered him. He said the "situation would be unpleasant for him" if he insisted on meeting his friends or going out.
Eventually, OP moved out to live with his girlfriend, and though the situation lightened, it got messed up when his grandfather, who was his sole provider, passed away, leaving behind a hefty fortune for him.
The man's grandpa was his only sole provider since his childhood. | Source: Unsplash
The Redditor said his father was constantly jobless and hugely indebted. His dad often used his progressive illness to live off his father's and wife's money. So when he heard of his son's overnight riches, he felt entitled and devised a plan to grab it all from OP.
The Redditor revealed his parents always treated his two siblings as their golden children while putting him down, saying he wasn't "enough." All this took a toll on OP's view of his parents so he remained indifferent to their financial demands.
Unmoved by his cold attitude, OP's dad bombarded him with nasty texts explaining how the estate he got belonged to his grandma. "It's your grandma's money," he often told OP.
OP received upsetting texts from his dad claiming the inheritance was rightfully his grandma's. | Source: Unsplash
Aware of his grandma's lack of money handling, OP approached her with an investment plan. But she turned it down as she was tormented by having to choose between her son and grandson. Nevertheless, OP decided it was best not to trust his heavily indebted father with the money.
He asked Reddit if he was at fault for not giving away his inheritance to his financially downtrodden parents. "Legally, he has everything to lose," OP said since his dad was bankrupt and couldn't afford a lawyer. He questioned: So Reddit? Am I the [one wrong] here?
The guy asked the internet if he was wrong for not giving up his inheritance to his parents. | Source: Pexels
Redditor Maximum_System_7819 felt OP wasn't at fault, saying: "No or low contact until they quit bringing up the money, at least." The person asserted it would help until OP's parents get used to the new norm of not seeding money into their relationship with him.
Meanwhile, user DisasterConscious238 inquired about OP's grandma, wondering why she was cut off from her husband's will. "Where is your grandma? Well, your grandfather listed you as his beneficiary, so you might as well benefit from it," the person said, adding:
"He made the right call, not giving his money to your father. Make sure you also make that call. But do make sure your grandma is taken care of."
Meanwhile, some people were curious if OP would guarantee his grandma's well-being & care. | Source: Unsplash
OP claimed his grandma was very old and lacked the know-how of finances. "My dad claims it's to help her, but she honestly has no idea what's going on or how to deal with all these issues," he stated. At one point, OP felt his parents and grandma were together in this, considering how his dad was his grandma's spoiled son.
He conclusively asserted that everything appeared too sketchy, particularly involving his parents' rush to get a quick bailout despite staying on a farm worth half a million and living on pension. Although OP was hell-bent on not trusting his father with the money, the fate of his enormous inheritance remains a mystery since he hasn't updated his post for over a year.
OP suspected his parents' rush for a quick bailout since they lived on a farm worth half a million & on pension. | Source: Pexels
Questions to Ponder:
Would you share your inheritance with your parents despite them not treating you with the respect and dignity you deserve?
OP said he wasn't ready to share his inheritance with his parents because they tried to emotionally pressure him to surrender it despite the bank and legal documents naming him the sole beneficiary. Should your parents do the same to you, would you consider sharing your estate with them?
Should you inherit a lavish estate from your grandpa, would you feel the money should rightfully go to your grandma?
The people online suspected OP's grandpa could've made him the sole heir to his wealth for a precise reason. They asserted the grandpa made the right call by not giving power of attorney to his son, who was growing in debt and jobless. OP said his grandma wasn't money savvy and mostly clueless after his grandpa's passing. In the end, he decided to keep the money. Would you do the same, or will you pass your inheritance on to your grandma?
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