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Groom Meets with Bride's Friend before Wedding and Heads for a Paternity Test After

Rita Kumar
Mar 11, 2022
05:00 A.M.
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With barely a month left before his dream wedding, a young man met his fiancée's close friend, who revealed a heartbreaking truth about her and their baby.

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They say marriages are made in heaven, but a 24-year-old groom-to-be's wedding was wrecked on earth when he chanced upon an old friend of his fiancée, 25. In the gut-wrenching process, he packed his bags and landed on his parents' doorstep in search of peace after discovering a soul-crushing truth about his wife-to-be.

The Original Poster (OP) was thrilled to exchange wedding rings with his fiancée, Sarah (name changed for obvious reasons) until he met her old friend a month prior to the event. He was left shaken when the woman revealed a secret she'd been keeping for Sarah's sake for over a year.

OP was thrilled about his wedding until he met his fiancée's old friend. | Source: Shutterstock

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Posting as throwRA_peaceofmind on Reddit's "Relationship Advice" sub, the man said he was uncertain of which path to take — marriage or breakup — after the anonymous woman revealed the baby he fathered with Sarah might not be his.

OP said the friend thought it best he learned the truth before the wedding. She reflected on Sarah's confession to her shortly after her pregnancy that summed up her affair with another guy. The revelation came as a bombshell for OP and he couldn't bring himself to believe it.

Everything Sarah's friend told him didn't make sense and contradicted what he knew of the woman he loved. But with each passing day, seeds of doubt bred in OP's mind as he reminisced about meeting Sarah for the first time.

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Sarah's friend told OP that the baby he fathered for a year might not be his. | Source: Unsplash

When OP met Sarah 5 years ago, she was in a relationship with someone else. However, she broke up with the guy and launched a new romance with OP a year later. After nearly 3 years of dating, she spilled the beans on her pregnancy to him.

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OP eventually put the final pieces to the puzzle on Sarah's sudden pregnancy revelation. He said it explained a lot since he always opted for protective measures to avoid pregnancy.

His fiancée disclosed some of the most incredible details he dared to dream about.

The news of Sarah's infidelity dropped a bomb on OP, and although he didn't want to give in to the alleged rumor, he took a paternity test to get to the bottom of the mystery. Unsurprisingly, the results revealed he wasn't the kid's father.

OP's fiancée fell pregnant but he had no idea the baby wasn't his. | Source: Unsplash

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At this point, the wedding was just two weeks away. Everything from the venue to the guest invitations was already set while OP battled his worst fears over the questionable ordeal.

He felt miserable and said he could no longer look at Sarah the same way. "I'm not sure what advice Reddit can offer," he painfully shared. "…but I don't know who else to turn to."

People online upvoted OP's plight with the most healing hearts while sympathizing with him and suggesting he move on and never look back. Redditor Glen_SK advised OP not to shrink away from exposing the truth.

"Tell everyone the truth - someone told your daughter might not be yours, you did a DNA test, you're not the father," the person stressed.

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People online sympathized with OP & advised him not to refrain from exposing the truth. | Source: Pexels

Although the Redditor advised OP to call off his wedding, they also asked him to consider getting a second DNA test and end the relationship if similar results turn up. However, User MedievalMissFit immediately dived into the discussion and said:

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"Doing a second DNA test won't change anything. The results will be the same...He is NOT THE FATHER and should not go through with this mockery of a wedding."

Convinced by the tremendous amount of empathy and suggestions pouring in, OP took another paternity test to verify his doubts before making a decision. The results turned back the same.

OP was numb to the disastrous truth and finally brought it up to Sarah. Eventually, she disclosed some of the most incredible details he dared to dream about.

OP confronted Sarah after the second DNA test revealed he wasn't the baby's father. | Source: Pexels

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After a dramatic outburst of emotions and playing the blame game of "how could you not trust me?" Sarah disclosed she had multiple affairs with three guys.

Upon hearing this, OP decided after deep thought that he couldn't push through with the wedding.  It helped that both his and Sarah's parents, though shocked, were supportive of his decision.  

Unsure of how things would turn out in the future, OP stated he had finally come to terms that his baby girl wasn't his.

"...any feelings I have towards her (his fiancée's baby) were built on a lie...it's not too late to start over, she's still young (1yr), she won't remember me," he painfully emphasized. "As painful as it is, I can't see my life continuing with her."

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OP called off his wedding. | Source: Unsplash

Questions to Ponder:

Do you think OP's marriage would've stood a chance had the second DNA test revealed him as the baby's father?

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OP was compelled to call off his wedding with his fiancée after the second DNA test also revealed he wasn't the baby's father. However, it's still guesswork if OP's marriage would've stood a chance if the results turned up different the second time around, considering the possibilities of him taking a third test that might match with the first test's results.

How would you deal with a cheating partner and overcome the fact that the child you parented together isn't biologically yours?

After discovering he wasn't the baby's biological father, OP's only option was to call off his wedding. He reasoned his relationship with his fiancée's baby was built on a lie and that the child would forget him with time. Would you find it hard to let go of your child after discovering that you aren't the kid's biological parent? How would you react to your partner's confession of infidelity?

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