Motherhood comes with various challenges, and leaping into parenthood often leaves parents feeling all kinds of emotions. One mom was criticized because she didn't express pure joy when she discovered news about her unborn child.
Finding out about a pregnancy can be exciting and nerve-wracking. After receiving the big news, parents start wondering about the gender of their new family members. They guess and attempt to determine whether they will welcome a little girl or boy.
Few people are bold enough to admit how they really feel when they see the typical pink or blue color indicating the gender of their baby. When one mom shared her brutally honest thoughts, she faced severe backlash.
Nicole Shamlin and her partner. | Source: tiktok.com/nicoleshamlin
THE GENDER REVEAL PARTY
Nicole Shamlin occasionally posted life updates on TikTok, and many of her family's significant milestones filled her online profile. She didn't shy away from speaking her truth, which landed her in hot water.
The mother hosted a gender reveal party when she was more than 20 weeks pregnant in 2022. She watched her partner shoot the confetti into the air, and a big smile flashed across her face.
There was an onslaught of criticism thrown at Shamlin. People were shocked at her perceived lack of gratitude.
It was blue, meaning she would be welcoming a baby boy. With hands raised, it was evident that the mom and dad were excited by the news. However, behind the scenes, something else was happening.
GRIEF AND DEVASTATION
The mother already had a son and struggled to imagine welcoming another boy into the world. On her TikTok page, she admitted that the revelation devastated her.
Via on-screen text, Shamlin wrote: "Me later that night grieving the fact that I'm not getting my baby girl just yet." She was wrapped in a blanket and was emotional as she asked netizens a question.
She wanted to know if she would be replacing her first son. The mom asked:
"How can I love another boy? How can I love two sons?"
Nicole Shamlin. | Source: tiktok.com/nicoleshamlin
SHE WAS BRUTALLY HONEST
Shamlin captioned her TikTok clip: "Gender disappointment is real." She also added that the feelings of sadness were temporary, and after some reflection, she felt completely different.
She stated that she couldn't be more excited and grateful but wanted to be honest with her followers. The short clip quickly went viral, and many users thanked Shamlin for her candor. A netizen shared:
"I love how you show the real truth behind stuff that many people go through."
NETIZENS HAD A LOT TO SAY
People applauded Shamlin for "normalizing" something many women faced. Someone else also sympathized with the mom and indicated they experienced something similar. The commenter said:
"I cried at my ultrasound when I found out he was a boy. I feel awful now because he’s amazing of course but hormones are crazy."
SHE FACED BACKLASH
There was an onslaught of criticism thrown at Shamlin. People were shocked at her perceived lack of gratitude, and many shared stories of losing babies to highlight why they didn't have compassion for her. One user wrote:
"This is sad. I went through years of IVF. I was just thankful to have one live child. Healthy is what you should care about not the sex."
Another commenter added: "I'm sure there are plenty of mamas who would take that boy off your hands!!" However, most of the comment section was filled with unexpected admissions.
Mothers revealed they were scared of experiencing similar feelings as Shamlin. A user noted: "I'm so scared and worried about this!! Everyone thinks it's horrible when you say you want one gender more than the other!"
Netizens also encouraged the mom and told her she would undoubtedly love her second son. They offered hope for her future. One commenter said:
"Everything happens for a reason. You’ll get her soon, and she’ll have 2 strong brothers to back her up."
People noted that they chose to learn the gender of their baby alone, so they didn't have to pretend in front of family and friends in case of gender disappointment. The comment section showed that many moms could relate to Shamlin.
She raised awareness about an issue very few people are brave enough to speak on. What do you think about her video, and are you familiar with gender disappointment?
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