Does Shalita Grant Have a Wife? Inside the Actress' Previous Marriage and New Love

During the summer of 2018, Shalita Grant and her wife, Sabrina Skau, had a beautiful ceremony on the site of California's first same-sex wedding. The reception was essentially a dressed-up games night with a handful of their favorite people.

Sadly, Shalita Grant and her partner quietly broke up sometime before 2020. The upward trajectory of the "NCIS: New Orleans" star's career became aligned with her personal life when she met her current girlfriend during the pandemic.

The Juilliard-trained actress says that her girlfriend, Jessica Aguilar, helped her prepare for Netflix's "You" by staying up until 4 a.m. to give her a pedicure.

Shalita Grant Discovered She Was Gay in Her Mid-20s

Grant likes to say that before coming out, she "had a straight brain and a gay body." She finally realized why sex with men never satisfied her when at 24, she "fell over" a woman at a bar. Her body knew what she needed. She elaborates:

"And when I found out I was gay, I told everybody because I was like, 'Y'all don't have to live like this. There is pleasure on the other side!'"

Prior to accepting her sexual orientation, the "Search Party" star felt that the inauthentic way she was living was "causing a real rift inside of her," which led to depressive episodes.

Shalita Grant Was Married Once, but Her Marriage Fell Apart

On the eighth day of the eighth month in 2018, Grant exchanged vows with commercial director Sabrina Skau at City Hall in San Francisco. The couple met on a dating app and began dating in October 2016.

The revelry carried on late into the night...

The relationship survived a year of long distance while the actress was filming "NCIS: New Orleans" on location. It was the first time Grant felt truly loved and heard by a partner.

Their Christmas Eve engagement in 2017 was a "sweet and playful" affair; the director proposed while they were wearing matching onesies. The newly engaged couple spent the rest of the intimate evening playing cards. Skau felt very safe with her fiancée:

"She's so self-possessed and supportive, and we can always be honest with each other."

Games were a vital component of the playful pair's wedding reception at a private Palo Alto house. Before indulging in a five-course dinner, the newlyweds and their guests played lawn games.

The revelry carried on late into the night with a few rounds of Taboo and Telestrations. Grant looked like a classic bride in a fitted bustier from the waist up.

There was nothing traditional about the ensemble from the waist down; the 29-year-old's turquoise pumps popped against her lace leggings, visible through the high front slit of the gown. Her bride wore an electric blue three-piece suit without a tie.

The couple parted ways sometime before the 2020 Covid-19 pandemic. Grant has not spoken about the reasons behind their divorce other than joking in an interview that it "fell apart for different reasons" than heterosexual couples separate.

Shalita Grant Found Love Again with ​​MMA Champion Jessica Aguilar

Grant could glow in the success of her third season mean girl arc opposite Penn Badgley in "You" with a new love. Feeling she's ready to move on from her divorce, a mutual friend had connected her with Jessica "Jag" Aguilar during the pandemic. In an April 2021 profile of the pair, she said:

"When we met, everything was so uncertain with the rest of the world. But I think that the universe gave us a reset and put each other in our lives for a reason."

Aguilar is a Mexican-American mixed martial artist who had a three-year reign as the straw-weight champion at the World Series of Fighting. The world champion fighter said in the profile that she loved being with a partner who was also at the peak of her career.

Grant and her girlfriend contributed to #lesbianvisibilityweek in October 2022. The actress shared a slideshow clip of their adventures overlaid with Beyoncé's "CUFF IT." "Late to post, but we celebrate every day," she said in the caption.