My lover threatens to share revealing photos if I leave him

Dear AmoMama,

I am in a very complicated situation, and I can see no way out. I'm 35 years old, and I've been married for 12 years. My husband is a successful man and a good provider, and we have two lovely children - a boy, 8, and a little girl now 4.

Three months ago when my husband was away on a business trip, and my children were spending the weekend with my parents, I went out with some girlfriends on a 'girl's night'.

I ran into one of my husband's bosses, a charming older man. We had a few drinks and one thing led to another. We became intimate and ended up spending the weekend together at his house.

It was never meant to be more than a one-off affair, as far as I was concerned. I had no intention of placing my marriage and my lifestyle at risk for some sentimental attachment.

Unfortunately, he took it much more seriously and continued to pursue me. I met up with him a few more times, then I told him it was over.

This man is now threatening to expose me as a cheat and said he would post intimate photos he had taken of me on the Internet for all the world to see.

He says if I do not continue seeing him, he will ruin my marriage and I will lose everything since I signed a prenup that stipulates that I will get nothing if I am proved unfaithful.

My husband has been asking me awkward questions and I think he suspects something. This man phones me constantly, claiming that he is in love with me and will not go away.

If I refuse to continue seeing him, he will destroy my life; if I continue the relationship I am sure that my husband will find out.

He keeps saying I am the One, but honestly, for me, he was just a bit of fun. How can I make this man see that this has to stop?

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