I found panties in my husband's bag, but things got worse when I found out who they belonged to

Dear AmoMama,

My husband asked me to pack a bag for an overnight business trip, and when I opened the bag I found a pair of transparent black panties inside one of the hidden side pockets, and they were obviously dirty.

I couldn't believe my eyes. My husband has always been so loving and devoted, always home with the family, I just couldn't believe he'd cheated on me.

I was wondering if I should confront him with the lingerie when my 19-year-old daughter walked in. She is my child from a previous relationship, but my husband dotes on her and spoils her shamelessly.

I tried to hide the panties, but she took them from my hand, telling me she had put them in the wash weeks ago, and thought she had lost them, and asking me where had I found them?

I was completely speechless. I know from her attitude that she truly knows nothing about the panties. What was he doing with my daughter's dirty panties in his bag?

She said they were in the wash, but maybe she is mistaken. Maybe she borrowed his bag for some weekend away with her friends?

I don't remember anything like that, but I don't want to ask her either. It's possible she is wrong and left those panties in the bag when she unpacked.

I can't imagine my husband digging into the laundry basket, stealing my daughter's dirty panties, touching them and doing god-knows-what with them.

I need to know, and I don't want to know. Please, should I confront him? Or should I trust him as I have for so many years? Please, please help me.

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