My husband forgot about my B-day, and when I reminded him, he made an unforgivable joke.
It was my birthday last Friday, and I turned 50, which I thought was an important life landmark. I told my husband I was inviting my parents and his, and our respective siblings for dinner on that day, and he said 'sure, no problem' and that he'd be home early to help out.
Of course, he wasn't home on time. He arrived half an hour after our last guests and I could see straight away he had had a 'pit-stop' along the way.
He greeted everyone but didn't wish me a happy birthday, which I thought was odd. We sat down to dinner and my mother made a rather sweet and funny toast saying she hoped I'd be in her life for another 50 years, and everyone was laughing and shouting happy birthday, and he leaned over and said 'shit, is that what all this fuss is about?'
His mother overheard him and told him it was unthinkable for him to forget my 50th birthday, and she said she hoped he'd at least got me a gift, even if he didn't remember the exact date. By now everyone was dead quiet, and I was hurt and embarrassed but worst was to come.
He turned to his mother winking and giggling and told her he'd give me the 'big one' tonight and that was more than I could ever expect considering the shape I was in.
I have never in my life been so humiliated. The family started talking and laughing, trying to forget that moment.
That night I slept in the guest room, and every night since. My husband keeps saying I'm stupid and being dramatic when all it was was a joke.
I don't know, but I don't want him to touch me. I can't stop hearing those words and seeing that faint hint of contempt in his smile.
Am I fool to be contemplating a divorce over a crude joke? Have I lost my perspective? Please, someone, give me some good advice. I need it!
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