My husband of 25 years, put a password on his phone, so I decided to hack it.

Dear AmoMama,

I have been married for 25 years, but now I have discovered I didn't know my husband at all.

Two weeks ago my phone ran out of battery and I grabbed my husband's phone to call my daughter and to my surprise, I discovered he had put in a password.

I asked him to unblock it so I could call our daughter and he did very reluctantly. Afterward, I asked him why the password and he said he'd just felt like it.

Something about his attitude spiked my curiosity, and I decided I was going to take a look at that phone if it killed me.

I looked in his desk because I was sure he'd have written the password down somewhere, he is a meticulous man and would not risk forgetting it.

I found two codes on the back of his calendar, and I tried them out while he was sleeping. The password was the second code.

I started browsing through his contacts and noted an app that connected him to a chat site. To my horror, I saw that it was a sex site. I read some of his conversations with women and they were despicable, repulsive.

He was having online sex with these women, swapping nude photos and reveling in acts I didn't even know existed.

I put the phone back, and I didn't say anything to him, but I can't forget what I read. I wish I'd never had the stupid idea in the first place.

I know he's not cheating on me, but it still hurts - and it frightens me that he has hidden so much of himself from me for so long.

I don't know what to do. Should I speak to him? Should I get it out into the open? I don't even think I know him at all.

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