Man writes a brutal analogy to help men understand women’s experiences with violence

Inviting other men to an exercise of empathy author A.R. Moxon he made an analogy about women submitted to sexual violence that will leave no man indifferent to this alarming and so common problem.

On October 6, Moxon took to Twitter to share a long series of posts that likened being a victim of sexual misconducts to being kicked in the testicles, to imagine how it feels to be repeatedly ignored when denouncing abuse.

Moxon wanted to express in terms relatable to any man the internal struggle that a great number of women face when society as a whole fails to offer female survivors of abuse the support and justice they need and deserve.

The series of tweets resonated with many women in outrage over the Trump administration way of dealing with the sexual misconduct accusations about judge Brett Kavanaugh. Read more on our Twitter account @amomama_usa

“Hi, guys. Imagine if one day you got kicked in the nuts, really hard, on purpose. You doubled over. Felt the pain. Nearly passed out. Nearly puked. Then you got kicked again. And again,” Moxon started his analogy.

“Imagine you told your parents and they didn’t believe you. Imagine they never mentioned it again.You learned to keep quiet about it. You learned to be scared.”

-A.R. Moxon, Twitter, October 6, 2018.

The author goes on to extend the analogy in detail to picture how rape culture and women’s objectification are installed in every aspect of our society, from what we are taught by our parents to advertising and the legal system.

“Imagine you heard about men with ruptured testicles who had to pay for their own forensic reports. Imagine you saw statistics showing only 1% of kickings resulted in conviction,” Moxon wrote.

In an indirect and literary way, without naming names, Moxon recalled the scandals around sexual misconduct involving high profile members of the current administration, including the US President and Kavanaugh.

Moxon went on to “imagine” a situation when a female president takes the side of the alleged abusers of her same sex instead of listening to the accusers, mocking them and failing to launch a proper investigation.

As Moxon’s analogy keeps unfolding, the similarities between his hypothetical portrayal of gender inequality in a world ruled by women to the entire case against then-Supreme-Court-nominee Brett Kavanaugh.

“Imagine the President mocked the accuser in front of a crowd, and the crowd laughed and clapped. Imagine the judge was confirmed. Imagine the deciding vote was a man. Can you imagine?” asked Moxon.

“When women tell their stories of living with danger and vulnerability, and of survival from assault, our first instinct appears to be to protect ourselves from personal culpability and accountability,” the writer later told Bored Panda.

“We certainly saw that dynamic play out as the Kavanaugh story developed,” he added, this time staying away from his abstract exercise and focusing on the concrete, not shying away from mentioning Kavanaugh by his name.

Despite the controversy around Christine Blasey Ford’s allegations against Kavanaugh, the lawyer was confirmed for a seat in the Supreme Court.

Apart from Ford, two other women have denounced Kavanaugh of sexual misconduct, and an anonymous accusation against him was sent to a senator in a letter.

The alleged incidents are said to have happened between the 1980’s when Kavanaugh was a college student, and 1998.

Kavanaugh’s former Yale University classmate Deborah Ramirez and Julie Swetnick also made formal accusations about the lawman, ranging from exposure to “gang rape.”

The way Ford was treated during the congressional hearing to determine whether Kavanaugh was in fact involved in behaviors that made him unacceptable as a member of the Supreme Court caused public outrage, and many celebrities used their platforms to support Ford and all the survivors.

In an appearance on “The Late Night Show with Stephen Colbert,” singer Lady Gaga called the debate about Kavanaugh vs Ford “one of the most upsetting things [she had] ever witnessed.”

“Trump the other day was speaking at a rally, and he said, ‘She has no memory of how she got to the party. Should we trust that she remembers the assault?’ And the answer is ‘yes’ … And I also know this woman is smart because she’s a psychologist – she’s no dummy,” said the star.

After revealing she had suffered from sexual abuse at age 15, comedian and TV show host Ellen DeGeneres spoke against people who chose not to believe the victims and take sides with the abusers.

DeGeneres expressed her support for Ford and talked from the perspective of the survivors in an interview she gave in her own show to commemorate the 1-year anniversary of the #MeToo movement.