April 02, 2019
A non-racial mother, Heather Boyer receives a strange message a few minutes after her daughter uploads her "black" boyfriend's photo on her Facebook account.
Undeniably, the internet has provided an avenue where people express their opinions, upload the moments of their lives that matters, discuss ideas, and the list is endless.
Thus, it was not shocking to see a young Caucasian girl’s post which exhumed joy and love, as she showed off her man, who happens to be an African American. Her mother was not displeased with either her daughter's choice or the decision to put up a picture of her and her boyfriend on her facebook page.
However, their inter-racial relationship seemed troubling to another Facebook user, an acquaintance, who alerted the girl's mother about her post. The user was not concerned about the bond between the two lovebirds, but was somewhat bothered about the boyfriend’s skin color, and race!
A mother's love for her child is invaluable, so very often you find that parent being on the lookout, especially when it has to do with who their child's partner is. Fortunately, the non-discriminating mother reacted to the message by sharing on her facebook handle her opinions about love, respect, and ultimately tolerance.
Instead of sending a reply to the Facebook user, she composed a perfect text that included her thoughts on her daughter's relationship. Speaking about the characteristics of the man her child is involved with, she highlighted his actions, rather than sulk on the fact that his skin color is black; she shared her delight for his presence in her daughter's life. In her update she posted this:
“ ...The color of his skin doesn't define who he is; what does define who he is, is how he treats my daughter. I see a man that comes to my house and shows me nothing but respect (a big deal in my book). It's always Yes Ma'am, No Ma'am, we talk about football, baseball, he tells me bye when he leaves, and has not once shown me a lack of respect or manners”.
She continues to talk about how accommodating his family is, his impact on her daughter's life, and even compared him to the previous men her child had dated. Her post reads :
“I see my daughter dating man who takes her to church with him. Every Sunday, he plays in a band, she sits with his family, how many young men these days make church a priority. None of the others have”.
Finally, she wrote on how blurred the lines are when it comes to the issue of race, which she would not let jeopardize the healthy relationship her daughter enjoys. According to her :
“He doesn't hit her, cuss her, lie to her, or make her cry. would I rather her date a white boy that did to keep from her dating another race? Absolutely Not”.