Kate Hudson Raises 3 Kids with the Help of Mom Goldie Hawn's Advice on Parenting with Exes
Communication and self-sufficiency are just a few of the things Kate Hudson rated as important in successful co-parenting as she had a chat with podcaster Laura Wasser.
On March 4 Laura published a chat she had with Kate Hudson on her podcast, Divorce Sucks! Since Kate juggles three children, a husband, a career, and three fathers, things can get tricky, but the actress has it all under control and Laura wanted to know her secret.
THE FAMILY DYNAMICS
Admittingly Kate giggled and called herself a “serial monogamist” when they started talking about the complexities of the relationships involved. All three of her children have different fathers. Rani Rose, born in October last year is her boyfriend, Danny Fujikawa’s little angel.
Seven-year-old Bingham she had with her ex-fiance, Matt Bellamy while fifteen-year-old Ryder Russell’s father is Kate ex-husband, Chris Robinson.
And as it turns out, Goldie taught her how to get it all done, peacefully and in style as she told Laura:
“The one thing that I learned from my mom is that no matter what you’re feeling and no matter what — when I see my friends talking **** about their ex-spouses in front of their kids, I get so upset because they don’t recognize how much that affects their child and how resentful their child will become of them.”
To the 39-year-old the most important factor in co-parenting, are the children and added that they are not only “incredibly intelligent, “ but they eventually form their own opinions.
“They will see with their own eyes whatever needs to be seen and they need to come to that on their terms. It’s not our place to tell them how to feel about the other parents. I think that’s so important,” Kate explained.
KIDS ARE TOP PRIORITY
The mum of three pointed out that every relationship has its merit and that the children are not part of the relationship between parents, and they shouldn’t be dragged into it, or suffer because of that. What drives the wheel are their needs and what is best for them.
“They all get along,” she said. “It’s funny, and we laugh about it. I never thought my life would look like that, but it is what it is. All I care about are happy kids, and we all make that the priority.”
Another factor essential for consistency and a key component to co-parenting is making sure that parenting rules are the same in both parent’s houses as she added:
“Matt and I, we have a great way of talking to each other about Bing and instilling the same rules in the house. We find that to be really important for Bing to feel that there’s, ‘No, you’re not going to get away with anything in each other’s house. Mommy and Daddy are on the same page.’ “
To Kate, children bond two people more than marriage does, but she won't deny that her divorce wasn’t painful. However, “time heals,” and their relationships grow.
I say kids are marriage to me — if anything, that’s more than marriage,” Hudson said. “I would like to think that I’m doing the best I can to ensure that my kids feel that the unit is still strong even in divorce, and I hope that’s the right way forward,” Kate added.
THE ALL HAVE SPECIAL NAMES
All three of Kate’s children received unique monikers. Kate and Danny named their daughter Rani Rose after her grandfather, Ron Fujikawa. A man loved and respected by those that knew him.
Matt and Kate’s son Bingham share his moniker with both sides of the family. Bing Russell was Kurt Russell’s father, and Bingham was also Matt’s mother’s maiden name. Kate and Chris’s son Ryder got his middle name, Russell, from Kurt Russell.
There was also recent cause for celebration as Kate Hudson turned 40 years old on the Easter weekend. Her friends and family made sure she had an unforgettable and fun birthday while it also had a few surprises in store.