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Marilyn Monroe Grew up in Foster Care — inside Her Relationship with Mom and Tough Childhood

Manuela Cardiga
May 16, 2020
10:30 A.M.

Sex-symbol and movie star Marilyn Monroe's past was far from glamorous. The most desired woman in the world had been abandoned as a child.

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To this day, Marilyn Monroe is one of the greatest movie icons of all time, the woman every man wanted and every woman envied, but inside the blond bombshell huddled a little girl with a tragic childhood, Norma Jean Baker.

Norma Jean was just 2 weeks old when her mother, Gladys Baker, first handed her over into foster care. For the rest of her life, Norma Jean would look for reassurance that she was wanted in the adulation of audiences, and in the eyes of men.

As Marilyn Monroe, Norma Jean had a unique opportunity to reinvent herself for the studio PR machine

 Marilyn Monroe poses for a portrait shortly before her death in 1962 | Source: Getty Image

Marilyn Monroe poses for a portrait shortly before her death in 1962 | Source: Getty Image

WHO WAS GLADYS BAKER?

It was the Roaring Twenties, a time of Jazz and gin and wild living. The world was plunging into a new era of licentiousness, and women were freeing themselves of corsets and moral restraints.

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Reinventing themselves as the Jazz Baby, women were smoking, dancing, and rouging their knees. Among them was Gladys Baker. At 26, she was twice divorced, a cutter at a film studio --Consolidated Film Industries -- and pregnant.

Norma Jean Baker as an infant in 1927 | Source: Wikimedia

Norma Jean Baker as an infant in 1927 | Source: Wikimedia

LEAVING NORMA JEAN

Gladys gave birth to her third child on June 1, 1926, and named her Norma Jean. She was determined to keep her baby, but within days, she was overcome by the daunting challenge of being a working single mother.

Although Gladys would always insist that Norma Jean's father was a work colleague, Charles Stanley Gifford, this was never confirmed. Nor did he, or any man, step forward to claim the relationship, even when she became the screen goddess, Marilyn Monroe.

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Jim Dougherty and the 16-year-old Norma Jean Baker on their wedding day in June of 1942 | Source: Getty Images

Jim Dougherty and the 16-year-old Norma Jean Baker on their wedding day in June of 1942 | Source: Getty Images

A distraught Gladys sought her mother Della Monroe's help, and she arranged for her neighbors, a devout childless Christian couple, Ida and Wayne Bolender to take the baby. It is telling that Della showed no interest in helping her daughter raise her child, and promptly departed on a trip to India.

Marilyn Monroe photographed by David Conover at the munitions plant in 1944 | Source: Wikimedia

Marilyn Monroe photographed by David Conover at the munitions plant in 1944 | Source: Wikimedia

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Gladys handed her 2-week-old daughter over to the Bolanders, who agreed to foster her alongside the other children they had already taken in. Ida devoted herself to the newborn, and years later, Norma Jean would describe her years with the Bolanders as the happiest in her life.

The young Marilyn Monroe posing for a photo shoot circa 1945 | Source: Wikimedia

The young Marilyn Monroe posing for a photo shoot circa 1945 | Source: Wikimedia

KEEPING IN TOUCH

Gladys was determined to keep in touch with her daughter, and she would visit little Norma Jean regularly. When she realized that the Bolanders wanted to adopt Norma Jean, Gladys was distraught.

 20th Century Fox promo shot of the 18-year-old Marilyn Monroe | Source: Getty Image

20th Century Fox promo shot of the 18-year-old Marilyn Monroe | Source: Getty Image

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She had already lost her first two children: Jackie and Berniece, abducted by her abusive first husband. She was determined she would not lose Norma Jean. In her desperation, she showed the first signs of her incipient instability.

Starlet Marilyn Monroe  presents the prize to Photoplay Magazine's 'Dream House' contest winner in 1949 | Source: Getty Images

Starlet Marilyn Monroe presents the prize to Photoplay Magazine's 'Dream House' contest winner in 1949 | Source: Getty Images

Norma Jean was three, and Gladys visited her at the Bolanders' and demanded that Ida hand her child over. When Ida demurred, Gladys shoved her out of her own back door and locked her out. She then stuffed her daughter into a duffel bag and attempted to run away with her.

Marilyn Monroe in a  20th Century-Fox publicity photo taken in 1947 | Source: Wikimedia

Marilyn Monroe in a 20th Century-Fox publicity photo taken in 1947 | Source: Wikimedia

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Fortunately, her attempt was foiled, but from then on Ida watched the interactions between mother and daughter with a wary eye. As Della Monroe's neighbor, Ida was aware that she too was becoming deranged, and her main concern became protecting Norma Jean.

Marilyn Monroe in John Huston's "The Asphalt Jungle" in 1950 | Source: Wikimedia

Marilyn Monroe in John Huston's "The Asphalt Jungle" in 1950 | Source: Wikimedia

GOING HOME TO MOM

When Norma Jean was 7, Ida finally agreed to allow an apparently stable and grounded Gladys to take her daughter home. Gladys had purchased a house and took in actors and actresses as boarders, providing herself and Norma Jean with a home and a steady income.

Keith Andes and Marilyn Monroe in the 1952 film, "Clash by Night" | Source: Wikimedia

Keith Andes and Marilyn Monroe in the 1952 film, "Clash by Night" | Source: Wikimedia

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FALLING APART

It looked as if Gladys and Norma Jean would finally have the stable family life they both craved when disaster struck. In quick succession, Gladys learned that her maternal grandfather Tilford Hogan had committed suicide, and her 13-year-old son Jackie had died of kidney disease.

Marilyn Monroe as a mentally disturbed babysitter in the 1952 film, "Don't Bother to Knock" | Source: Getty Images

Marilyn Monroe as a mentally disturbed babysitter in the 1952 film, "Don't Bother to Knock" | Source: Getty Images

The twin tragedies pushed the already-fragile Gladys over the edge. She ranted at the shocked Norma Jean, telling her she should have been the one to die, not Jackie. The horrified 7-year-old watched her mother taken away by the police.

Marilyn Monroe at the legendary Actor's Studio in New York | Source: Wikimedia

Marilyn Monroe at the legendary Actor's Studio in New York | Source: Wikimedia

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INSTITUTIONALIZED

Gladys was diagnosed as a paranoid schizophrenic and institutionalized. Little Norma Jean, having been taken away from the only family she had ever known -- the Bolanders -- was now alone. Legal guardianship of the 7-year-old was attributed to a friend of her mother's Grace Goddard.

Marilyn Monroe with Tony Curtis and Jack Lemmon in Billy Wilder's 1959 hit "Some Like It Hot" | Source: Wikimedia

Marilyn Monroe with Tony Curtis and Jack Lemmon in Billy Wilder's 1959 hit "Some Like It Hot" | Source: Wikimedia

INSTABILITY

For the next few years, Norma Jean was shunted between Goddard's home and her mother's sister-in-law. The already-traumatized child suffered yet another betrayal -- she was sexually abused by one of Goddard's friends.

French actor Yves Montand and Marilyn Monroe in the 1960 musical comedy "Let's Make" | Source: Wikimedia

French actor Yves Montand and Marilyn Monroe in the 1960 musical comedy "Let's Make" | Source: Wikimedia

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Faced with the occurrence, Goddard promptly handed the bewildered Norma Jean over to the Los Angeles Orphans’ Home. She was placed with Ana Lower, Goddard’s aunt, who took in Norma Jean and showered her with the love she craved.

Marilyn Monroe on the set of "Something's Got To Give" in 1962 | Source: Wikimedia

Marilyn Monroe on the set of "Something's Got To Give" in 1962 | Source: Wikimedia

Her contact with her mother was intermittent, as Gladys battled her inner demons. At the age of 12, Norma Jean finally discovered she had a sister, and the two women would correspond for the rest of their lives.

Marilyn Monroe and Clark Gable in her last movie, "The Misfits" | Source: Wikimedia

Marilyn Monroe and Clark Gable in her last movie, "The Misfits" | Source: Wikimedia

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MARRIAGE AT 16

In 1942, Norma Jean married one of Goddard's neighbors, James Dougherty. Norma Jean dropped out of high school and became a housewife. Just months after the US entered WWII, Goddard became a merchant marine and was stationed in the Pacific.

Norma Jean moved in with her in-laws and took a job at a munitions plant. It was then that she was "discovered" by a documentary photographer visiting the plant to gather morale-boosting footage. He was entranced by Norma Jean -- then a brunette -- and encouraged her to seek work as a model.

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Marilyn Monroe arriving at a Hollywood party in 1953 | Source: Wikimedia

Marilyn Monroe arriving at a Hollywood party in 1953 | Source: Wikimedia

Norma Jean was taking the first steps in her new career when Gladys was released from San Jose's Agnews State Hospital. Norma Jean and Gladys moved in with the ailing Ana Lower. Norma Jean, whose career was taking off, started divorce proceedings -- neither of which Gladys approved.

BECOMING MARILYN MONROE

Norma Jean signed a contract with 20th Century Fox and became Marilyn Monroe. Gladys announced she was moving to Oregon to live with an aunt -- but she never got there. En route, she married a man who already had a wife and family in another state.

 Marilyn Monroe on the set of the 1953 film, "Niagara" | Source: Getty Images

Marilyn Monroe on the set of the 1953 film, "Niagara" | Source: Getty Images

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REINVENTING HERSELF

As Marilyn Monroe, Norma Jean had a unique opportunity to reinvent herself for the studio PR machine. Yes, she had grown up in foster care -- but that was because her mother and father were both dead, not because her mentally unstable mother abandoned her.

Marilyn Monroe posing poolside for a portrait in 1953 | Source: Getty Images

Marilyn Monroe posing poolside for a portrait in 1953 | Source: Getty Images

Marilyn was a budding star when Gladys' husband died, and she returned to Los Angeles. She arrived manic and out of control, and her daughter was forced to call the police and watch once again as her mother was strapped to a gurney.

THE SKELETON IN HER CLOSET

Over the next few years, Marilyn became Hollywood's biggest star, and it wasn't long before someone dug out the truth about Gladys. The mother of the world's most popular actress wasn't dead -- she was insane and confined in an institution.

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A FEARFUL LEGACY

But Gladys left her mark on her daughter in yet another way. The insecure Norma Jean self-medicated with drugs and was haunted by the fear that she would lose her sanity, just like her mother and grandmother.

Marilyn Monroe sings "Happy Birthday" to President John F. Kennedy in May 1962 | Source: Getty Images

Marilyn Monroe sings "Happy Birthday" to President John F. Kennedy in May 1962 | Source: Getty Images

In 1961, after admitting to suicidal thoughts, Marilyn was committed to the Payne Whitney Clinic. Her stay was brief, and though she declared herself cured, a year later she was to seek a Thorazine prescription from her doctor.

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DEATH OF A LEGEND

Just months after she stood before the nation and sang Happy Birthday to President J.F. Kennedy, on August 5, 1962, Marilyn Monroe was found dead in her bed of a barbiturate overdose.

The golden girl who had enchanted America and the world on screen was gone. She was just 36, and at the height of her fame.

To this day, 57 years after her passing, Marilyn Monroe is the mythical screen goddess that inspires successive generations of actresses and is a worldwide cultural phenomenon.

Gladys showed few signs of grief when informed of Norma Jean's passing and was to outlive her tormented daughter by 22 years, dying in a health care institution in 1984.

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