August 07, 2020

Stedman Graham Opens up on Being Defined by His Relationship with Oprah – How Does He Define Himself?

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Stedman Graham is an interesting man. He's the longtime partner of Oprah Winfrey and has definitely lived a full life. In a recent interview, he opened up on the dynamic between him and his partner. 

Graham's interview was on "The Kyle & Jackie O Show" recently. While he spoke on many topics, one of the most prominent was his view on how he views himself amid his relationship. 

Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham attend Tyler Perry Studios grand opening gala on October 05, 2019 | Photo: Getty Images.


Graham is married to one of the richest women and most powerful faces on TV. So, it would be easy for him to lose his sense of identity. However, as the 69-year-old explained, this hasn't been the case. 

Graham pointed out that over the years, he has found that many people tend to define him as being just "Oprah's partner." However, he doesn't care much about it. Explaining further, he explained:

"I'm defined a lot by my relationship with Oprah, but it has nothing to do with me. That's how you define me! You don't have the tools to define yourself."


Graham added that while he's much more than what people say he is, he also understands the impulse to define him in a certain way.

So, it doesn't bother him so much. Essentially, he views himself in a much different way. To him, that opinion is what matters the most.

Despite being engaged for almost three decades, the couple is yet to walk down the aisle.


Graham is indeed more than just Oprah's partner. He is a businessman and an educationist, and he has also written some books in the past.

Speaking further, he pointed out that focusing on his interests has helped him a lot thus far. Graham added:

"I'm developing a process of continuous improvement every day based on my skills, talents, abilities, purpose, and passions. That's what makes me happy."

Stedman Graham and Oprah Winfrey arrive on the red carpet for the premiere of "The Butler" on August 5, 2013 | Photo: Getty Images


Graham's relationship with Oprah is quite peculiar. They've been together since 1986, and they got engaged in 1993. However, despite being engaged for almost three decades, the couple has yet to walk down the aisle.

Earlier this year, Winfrey opened up about their relationship, including how they met and their journey thus far. 

On the decision not to get married, she explained that she never really wanted it. While she loved the feeling of being someone's woman, she had prioritized her career above anything else.

The couple agreed that they'd be better off not marrying, and they've been together since. Apparently, it has worked thus far.