Bella Thorne's Relationship with Her Mom Tamara Used to Be Strained — inside the Family Drama

Manuela Cardiga
Aug 27, 2020
12:00 P.M.
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Bella Thorne is just 22 but she has already starred in 38 movies, and like so many child actors, she had a tempestuous relationship with her mother.


Bella Thorne is one of 4 siblings -- all actors -- who were raised by their mother Tamara after their father, Delancey Thorne died in a motorcycle accident in 2007.

Bella was 9, and already contributing to the family's financial stability, working as a model, and starring in her first TV series, "Dirty Sexy Money." The burden of responsibility of being the family's sole breadwinner that was placed on Bella is one she feels her mother should have shouldered.

The star of "Shake It Up," expressed her bitterness, telling her mother that neither she nor her siblings had ever learned how to love

Bella Thorne discusses "The Life of a Wannabe Mogul: A Mental Disarray" at Build Studio in June 2019 in New York City | Source: Getty Images



In Bella's 2019 poetry book/ autobiography "The Life of a Wannabe Mogul: Mental Disarray" she opens up about all that she so desperately needed from her mother as a child, and which Tamara never gave her. She said:

“I wanted acceptance. I wanted appreciation and love for who I was — the way I looked — to everything about myself that I didn’t ever feel like I got.”

Bella, who is dyslexic, also blamed her mother for not being attentive to her need for education, and for focusing on her earning ability.



What caused even more strain between mother and daughter, was that Bella was controlled by Tamara, who stage-managed her daughter's burgeoning showbusiness career with an iron hand. Bella said:

“How are you allowed to say to your parent, ‘You’re crossing my boundaries?' That’s only become a thing teenagers can say now to a parent.”


The star of "Shake It Up," expressed her bitterness, telling her mother that neither she nor her siblings had ever learned how to love, and especially to love someone who was "good" for her. In 2017, Bella revealed that she was a sexual abuse survivor.


The actress shared her experience of being abused from the age of 6 up until she was 14. Bella has never exposed the identity of her abuser, but it would presumably either be a member of the family, or a close and trusted family friend.



The writing and publishing of her book have been therapeutic for Bella who has admitted that she is working on her relationship with her mother and that they are now closer than they have been in years. Bella has posted a tentative apology to Tamara on Instagram, explaining that she had to purge the pain under her skin in order to heal.



The pandemic has impacted the actress' love life brutally, effectively separating her from her boyfriend Benjamin Mascolo for 5 months. Bella is now reunited with Mascolo, an Italian singer, but is still anxious about her mother during the on-going lockdown.


Tamara, who suffers from Crohn's Disease, is in a high-risk group, and particularly vulnerable to the virus due to her debilitated immune system. But for Bella life goes on, and she is constantly working and writing. The precocious actress is now directing music videos.


First, she started by directing her own music videos, then she started being asked to direct for other singers and groups. Bella's singing career is booming, and she demonstrated that she has a truly fabulous voice by taking part in "The Masked Singer," where she was unmasked as The Swan.



Bella is also a successful businesswoman, with a cosmetics line, Thorne by Bella, and has parlayed her huge 23 million Instagram following into a fortune, charging over $60,000 to promote a product on her page. And Bella won't back anything she doesn't believe in. The ferociously honest young star refuses lies and deceit in every area of her life.


Bella was the executive producer of her latest film, "Infamous," and has 5 films in post-production: the comedy horror, "The Babysitter: Killer Queen;"  "Girl," "Leave Not One Alive," the comedy "Chick Fight," in which she costars with Malin Åkerman, and Alec Baldwin; and the drama "Habit," with Gavin Rossdale, and Hana Mae Lee.

Bella will also star in the "American Satan" spin-off "Paradise City," which is due for release sometime in late 2020, early 2021. The producers are playing their cards close to the vest, and have yet to announce the date, or even in which network the series will be released.

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