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Mary J Blige Says Ex Claimed She Is 'Done, Fat, and Old' but Fans Helped Her Stay in Music

Stephen Thompson
Jan 11, 2022
01:34 P.M.
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Mary J Blige enjoys being called many names— an actor, a celebrity, and a talented singer. However, being called "a survivor" strikes a chord every time.

Mary J Blige is popularly known as an American singer, songwriter, actress, and philanthropist. With nine Grammy awards and a hundred million records to her name, the 50-year-old has stamped her place in the music industry.

Although Blige has amassed a successful career in music, one thing that has left her supporters intrigued is her ability to overcome difficult situations. Let us take a look at Blige's personal life.

Mary J. Blige and Kendu Isaacs attend Starshell's "Birthday Girl" video release party on June 26, 2012 | Photo: Getty Images



Mary J Blige and Kendu Isaacs walked down the aisle in 2003 and enjoyed marital bliss for thirteen years. In 2016, the grammy-award-winning singer filed for divorce after she found out Isaacs had been unfaithful.

Two years later, the divorce was finalized after a long-standing legal battle over money owed to Isaacs. According to Blige, the marriage became very toxic at some point.

Mary J. Blige speaks onstage after accepting the Star Power Award during the 2018 Black Girls Rock! at Newark. | Photo: Getty Images


In a chat with Janine Rubenstein on the People Everyday Podcast, the singer shed more light on her struggles in her marriage to Isaacs. Blige revealed that at some point in the marriage, she was being told she was "done" and "washed up." The actress also said,

"I was told I was fat and old and my fans were old and they did not like me anymore."

Blige noted that she began to believe Isaacs and wanted to throw in the towel. However, the songwriter credited her fans for saving her from the darkest point in her life. According to Blige, she had to push through and believe in her subconscious for the sake of her die-hard fans.



Time and again, Blige has opened up about her struggles with marriage, sexual abuse, depression, and suicidal thoughts in the past. But her battle and victory over drug addiction have inspired many.

As a teenager, the "Power Book II: Ghost" actress started using drugs as a means of escape from her depressing world. According to Blige, she began drinking and using drugs to kill the terrible memories of her childhood.


In some interviews, the 50-year-old revealed Isaacs helped her recover from the drug and alcohol addiction. Blige noted that for a long time, she had been hurting terribly and needed a savior.

Blige relayed that as a teenager, she never smiled because to her, smiling symbolized weakness.


After the divorce from Isaacs, Blige said he did not deserve the credit she accorded to him for helping her through her addictions. Blige explained that Isaacs was put in the driver's seat not because he was capable but because she wanted the fairytale to be real.

For the "Queen of R&B," breaking the chain of addiction meant she had to address the demons within. Blige explained that when she realized what the future held if she did not get better, she found the strength to push forward.



Most people believe that our childhood plays an important role in how we turn out to be as an adult. For Blige, her bad childhood made her a helpless alcoholic and drug addict.

In her new Amazon prime video documentary titled "Mary J Blige's My Life," the 50-year-old gave a detailed explanation of her childhood.


The documentary revealed Blige's parents divorced when she was five, and she had to move to New York with her mother and older sister. The new environment was described as an increasingly hostile one where the singer learned to be emotionless.

Blige relayed that as a teenager, she never smiled because to her, smiling symbolized weakness. However, she found a way to fight through all the difficulties. Thirty years later, the icon remains an inspiration to the world at large.

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