Sick Mother Tries to Help Child Deal with Her Possible Death Following Doctor's Visit

Salwa Nadeem
Nov 07, 2021
03:40 A.M.

Her symptoms were rapidly deteriorating when the doctors diagnosed her with a deadly condition. The worried mother didn't know how to help her 3-year-old son deal with her death.


A Mumsnet user named joycetheripper shared she had been feeling unwell for a long time. She experienced daily episodes of painful migraine that left her exhausted.

Her symptoms worsened over time until half of her face was numb, and she felt like someone was pricking her arms with needles. Her last visit to the doctor resulted in a shocking realization.

Source: Mumsnet

Source: Mumsnet

While writing her post on Mumsnet, OP (Original Poster) revealed she was exhausted, and her illness left her with no energy. She explained her condition, saying:

"I had an MRI & they found englarged blood vessels & indications of AVM or anuerysm on the right side of my head so I just had a 2nd contrast MRI on Thurs to get more information."


The doctors planned to remove the blockage from her blood vessels through an operation, but OP was scared she wouldn't make it. The thought of death made her worry for her son.

She was worried for her son | Source: Unsplash

She was worried for her son | Source: Unsplash

Lately, she hadn't left the house because she was too fatigued. One day, she decided to go to the pizza place near her home to spend time with her son.

"Although I must admit I wish I were dead most of the time now."

While crossing the road, OP passed out and fell while her 3-year-old baby screamed for help. The poor child kept crying until she woke up.

Her son was crying | Source: Unsplash

Her son was crying | Source: Unsplash


The recent episode scared OP and made her think about what would happen to her son if she died. His reaction made her realize he wasn't ready to live without her.

OP was very close to her son. She explained they spent a lot of time cuddling in bed, and he depended on her for everything. However, she also admitted she wished she was dead already. She wrote:

"Although I must admit I wish I were dead most of the time now, because of the pain I'm in, I am desperate to hang on and protect him."

She loved her son | Source: Unsplash

She loved her son | Source: Unsplash

Feeling helpless, OP asked other Mumsnet users for advice on how to help her son deal with her death if the doctors were unable to save her.




"I think there are a few books out there (Wilson's Wish?) that talk about death and bereavement in a way that children can get"

They also emphasized that OP should explain to her child how the doctors are trying their best to save her, but if they fail, she will "go up to the sky and become a star."

They suggested OP to introduce her son to books| Source: Unsplash

They suggested OP to introduce her son to books| Source: Unsplash

The user also suggested focusing on her potential recovery instead of her passing. They believe thinking about the positive aspect would yield better results.

Another Mumsnet user named gherkinwithapurplemerkin suggested OP make a memory box and add photos of her with her child. They also said OP could write letters to her son and keep them in the memory box.


The user also emphasized that her son wouldn't necessarily need the box since the doctors haven't completely given up on her. Most users advised OP to stay positive and hope for the best.

They advised her to stay positive | Source: Pexels

They advised her to stay positive | Source: Pexels

Another user asked if OP's son had someone else who could look after him in her absence, and she replied her son was close to his father, but her bond with her son is much stronger. FabIsGettingThere replied:

"What about making a photo scrapbook of days out you have had/do have in the future and then you can look at it together and build more memories."

Since OP was looking for a person who could replace her and look after her son like she did, Fliight suggested she look for something that would bring back memories. They suggested getting her son a toy or a blanket instead of a person.

Most users felt bad for OP and tried giving her hope. If you enjoyed reading this article, you might also like this one about a man who discovered someone was living in his shed.

Please fill in your e-mail so we can share with you our top stories!
By subscribing, you agree to our Privacy Policy
Related posts

Mother-In-Law Secretly Installs Hidden Camera in Her Son and His Wife’s Bedroom

November 26, 2023

Am I Wrong for Kicking My Mother-in-Law Out after Seeing What She Did in My Home While I Wasn't There?

February 14, 2024

Do I Need to Tell My Husband What I Caught Our Son Doing?

February 28, 2024

Mom Tries to Ruin Her Son’s Wedding, Wears Long White Tulle Gown to the Ceremony

January 12, 2024

Man Accidentally Found Out His Wife Was Cheating on Him for Years and Develops a Revenge Plan

January 25, 2024

Widow Kicks Unemployed Son and Heavily Pregnant Wife Out on the Street, Later Gets a Call from Mom

December 03, 2023

I Threw the Nephew I Literally Raised Out of My House and Told Him Not to Come Back

February 20, 2024

I Threw the Nephew I Literally Raised Out of My House and Told Him Not to Come Back

February 06, 2024

My Sister Demands I Be Her Surrogate Despite Knowing It Would Endanger My Life

February 07, 2024

My Eldest Son Is Quite Different from My Other 2 Kids, So I Did a DNA Test on Him

November 17, 2023

5 Stories of Mothers-in-Law Whose Odd Actions Left Their Families Baffled

January 15, 2024

I Kicked My Boyfriend Out of My House after He Demanded I Ruin My Brother's Life

March 03, 2024

Am I Wrong for Checking My Husband's Dashcam Footage on His Car without His Consent?

January 30, 2024

3 Shocking Stories When Mother-in-Laws Crossed the Line with Their Grandchildren

February 29, 2024