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Man Expects Girlfriend to Share in His Mortgage Payments after Finding Out How Much She Earns

Salwa Nadeem
Mar 26, 2022
06:00 A.M.
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After she told her boyfriend how much she was earning, he clarified that he was asking for her monthly salary and not yearly. When the woman said that was her monthly salary, his eyes widened in disbelief. 


The woman revealed that her boyfriend was a doctor while she was working as a social media manager. Her income was more than his and what he was expecting.

She noticed a change in his behavior the moment she disclosed her salary. A few moments later, he asked her to do something unexpected.

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BusinessSubstantial7's Reddit post surfaced on the AITA sub after thousands of users upvoted it and flooded the comments section with their opinions. 

The 22-year-old woman had recently decided to move in with her boyfriend after dating him for 1.5 years. She shared that she was living in a rented apartment while her boyfriend had bought a house before they started dating. 

The couple decided to discuss their finances before moving in to avoid complications in the future. But what started as a discussion turned into an argument within a few minutes. 

The couple decided to move in after dating for 1.5 years. | Source: Unsplash


When her boyfriend revealed how much he made per month while working as a doctor, the woman wasn't shocked. She was expecting that salary from him. 

She was surprised to hear his reply because she wasn't expecting him to have such demands.

However, when she disclosed her salary, he laughed and clarified that he was asking for her monthly salary. "That's how much I earn per month!" she replied

Her boyfriend worked as a doctor. | Source: Unsplash


Her boyfriend's eyes widened in disbelief. He wasn't expecting a social media manager to be earning that much. OP (Original Poster) confessed she understood why her boyfriend was shocked. Her salary was 150% of his. 

She explained she earned that much because her international client paid her in a currency twenty times stronger than her country's currency. 

After his shock faded away, OP's boyfriend said he was happy because now he could split his mortgage with her. She was surprised to hear this because she wasn't expecting him to make such a demand.

She worked as a social media manager and had international clients. | Source: Unsplash


Although she was willing to pay for the groceries and other household expenses, she couldn't imagine sharing in the mortgage payments. She told her boyfriend she would do the chores and pay for the household expenses, but not the mortgage. 

She explained that if they broke up, the house would stay with him, and she wouldn't get anything. So she thought there was no point in paying half the mortgage. 

But her boyfriend insisted on her paying, so she tried to suggest a compromise, saying she would buy furniture for his house and pay for the groceries while doing the house chores. She even agreed to pay half of the utility bills. 


She offered to buy furniture for his house. | Source: Unsplash

All that proved futile because the man was bent on making her share in the mortgage, asking her to consider it as her rent. He felt it was selfish of her not to pay half the mortgage. 


Confused by his reaction, the woman decided to post her story on Reddit to find out what others thought about her situation. She asked other users if there was anything she couldn't comprehend from her boyfriend's explanation. 

"NTA, Please continue to live on your own terms, but your own place or pay rent," Redditor Lurker_the_Pip stated. The Redditor believed her boyfriend was "entitled" and only wanted the money from her.

She turned to Reddit for advice. | Source: Unsplash


On the other hand, Ornery_Cartographer felt OP's boyfriend was right because he was asking for half of the mortgage, which was a fair rental price. The Redditor explained that half the mortgage value of a property is usually less than its rental value. 

Meanwhile, polaroidbilder pointed out that OP's boyfriend would get the money back if he sold his house, but this was not the case with a lease. She felt there was a difference between a mortgage and rent. 

Most Redditors believed OP was not at fault. However, many users also sided with her boyfriend and felt his demands were valid.

Some users felt it was OK if her boyfriend was asking her to pay half the mortgage. | Source: Unsplash


Questions to Ponder:

Do you think OP should pay half the mortgage?

Most Redditors asked OP not to pay half the mortgage, and instead live in her own apartment to solve the issue. However, some people felt her boyfriend's demands were fair and that she should agree to them. What do you think?

Do you think OP's boyfriend was being greedy?

OP's boyfriend never expressed his desire to split the mortgage until he knew about her hefty salary. Some people might think he was being greedy. Do you agree?

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