The woman's husband doubted his newborn daughter's paternity and assumed she wasn't biologically related to them. The mom was crushed, but things went off course when she dug deeper and discovered what went wrong.
A recent post on Reddit's "Best of Redditor Updates" community went viral and proved why making a hasty judgment without verifying facts could ruin relationships. Redditor Ok-Replacement7697 cross-posted one such story from an Original Poster (OP) who had recently welcomed her baby.
The mom with the handle u/Nectarine-Power revealed that her husband doubted their baby's paternity and believed she wasn't the child's mother. But things headed in a different angle when she dug deeper and found out what made him jump to that conclusion.
Before filling readers in on her dilemma, OP described her newborn. Her baby had grayish-brown eyes, a tuft of dark brown hair, and a darker complexion. In contrast, OP had red hair and blue eyes, while her husband was blonde-haired and blue-eyed.
OP's family had dark brown hair and brown eyes, and she owed her red hair to a genetic mutation. She claimed these facts were relevant because her husband never understood genetics despite being a Ph.D. aspirant.
Meanwhile, some felt OP's husband could be fabricating all of it just to get rid of her.
Problems sparked when OP's husband was convinced that their baby was not biologically related to him. He chalked his speculations up to the baby's darker complexion and began suspecting something was fishy with her paternal roots.
OP was crushed when her husband suspected their baby's paternity. | Source: Pexels
OP told him that she wouldn't be disgruntled if he wanted a paternity test to prove the baby's origins. She was open to the idea because she wanted to keep the peace in their relationship. However, things took a strange turn when her husband told her to take a maternity test as well.
This was the precise point that led to OP's emotional breakdown. She tried to explain things to her husband, but nothing worked. She even asked him if he assumed she'd conceived with someone else's child, but he brushed it aside.
OP was deeply confused after all her attempts to explain genetics to her husband failed. She felt her husband shouldn't be so ignorant about heredity since he was a smart software engineer.
She turned to Reddit for guidance, and after reading her story on the cross-post, people flocked to share their thoughts and discuss where OP's husband could've gotten it all wrong.
The husband stood his ground that the baby wasn't biologically related to him & OP. | Source: Pexels
"Hair color also changes. My older brother and I were VERY blonde the first few years, and now we've both got brown hair."
As the discussion heated up, people shared their personal experiences of having very dark brown tresses to curly and blonde to straight hair, summing up how incredible genetics could get at times.
Meanwhile, some felt OP's husband could be fabricating all of it just to get rid of her. "Are you sure it's not him being stupid, but instead him orchestrating things, so you leave?" asked Redditor Whatsfordinner4.
People on Reddit offered insight into how babies changed features as they grew older. | Source: Unsplash
Shortly after, OP returned with an update and claimed her husband was actually dealing with postpartum depression. She surmised his doubts stemmed from the stress of welcoming a baby. After the incident, he went to therapy, and OP hoped it would change his outlook on their daughter.
"But for everyone wondering, to sum it up, he is not dumb, and he is not cheating on me. He's just going through a hard time right now," she clarified.
In the end, OP clarified that her husband was dealing with postpartum depression. | Source: Unsplash
Questions to Ponder:
Apart from therapy, what else would you advise OP to help her husband overcome his postpartum depression?
When OP's husband insisted on a paternity and maternity test on their child after seeing the visible differences in the newborn's complexion and appearance, she was under the impression that he was ignorant. But later, she realized he was dealing with postpartum stress and put him in therapy. What would you advise parents who struggle with postpartum depression?
Do you think OP's husband could've handled his speculations differently than jumping to a conclusion about his child's paternity?
When OP's husband told her to DNA-test their child, she was devastated. She felt he couldn't be so ignorant of genetics. Would you jump to a conclusion about your child's paternity and spouse's loyalty by just spotting differences in your child's appearance? Or would you believe in the power of genetics and let things slide to preserve the harmony in your relationship?
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