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Gwyneth Paltrow's Father Loved Her Fiancé Brad Pitt 'Like a Son' —She Felt Responsible for Their Break Up

Titi Dokubo
Apr 30, 2022
12:30 P.M.
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Gwyneth Paltrow and Brad Pitt met on a movie set and became inseparable. Their romance was so bright people still remember their matching haircuts.


After two years together, Brad proposed. However, they did not even plan their wedding. Several months after they announced their engagement, the pair broke up.

Later, Gwyneth Paltrow told Brad Pitt that she did something she still blames herself for and that she was also too young at that moment. However, she still has photos of them together.

Photo of Brad Pitt and Gwyneth Paltrow in Paris on March 29, 1997 | Source: Getty Images


Gwyneth Paltrow and Brad Pitt first met on the set of "Se7en," where they played a couple, and Paltrow said she fell in love at second sight.

Pitt, 31, was already one of the biggest stars in Hollywood, while Paltrow was 22 and initially mistook his flirting for friendliness, then she began to have a crush on him.

Brad Pitt and Gwyneth Paltrow at the Tribeca Film Center for the screening of "Fargo" on March 6, 1996 | Source: Getty Images


At first, she was worried she couldn't afford to have a crush on Brad. However, she could not resist her feelings. Paltrow said:

"I am properly in love for the first time in my life… and I do not care if my former boyfriends read this."

In no time, everyone on set knew they were an item, they were obsessed with each other, and it felt like destiny brought them together.

Brad Pitt and Gwyneth Paltrow at David Bowie's after-show party on October 29, 1995 | Source: Getty Images



Pitt and Paltrow were so in love that they tried to stay together for every possible minute. Paltrow drank out of a mug with Pitt's face on it when she was away on set to be close to him.

When accepting an award, Pitt called Paltrow his "angel" and described their time apart as a "hairy beast" that separates him from his lovely Paltrow.

The "Fight Club" actor also confessed that he had never been happier while boasting that his "girl got class."

Brad Pitt and Gwyneth Paltrow sighted in New York on February 23, 1996 | Source: Getty Images


Paltrow also wanted to have Pitt by her side. They liked to read papers, drink coffee, watch movies, hang out alone, or laugh with their friends over dinner while playing games.

In 1997, the couple even had matching haircuts, even though they did not do it on purpose. It happened that way because they went to the same celebrity hairstylist, Chris McMillan.

However, their matching blonde pixie cut showed how close they were and shared the same values at that time.

Gwyneth Paltrow and Brad Pitt at the premiere of "The Devil's Own" on March 13, 1997 | Source: Getty Images



After dating for two years, Pitt proposed to Paltrow in December 1997. Pitt described the moment as "one the greatest moments" in his life. 

Paltrow's love for Pitt gave her strength because he was utterly besotted with her, and not just because he was a superstar. They once described their love as being enough love for everyone in the room.

Brad Pitt and Gwyneth Paltrow at the 68th annual Academy Awards on March 25, 1996 | Source: Getty Images


At that time, Paltrow took the engagement very seriously because she respected the marriage institution. She said:

"There are no divorces in my family either - and in his either, so this is not something - we've been together for quite some time, so this is not a rash decision."


The engagement ring which Pitt was said to have designed featured four diamonds—one large diamond and three tiny stones.

Even though there were rumors that Paltrow paid a visit to Vera Wang, the wedding dress designer in New York, someone close to them revealed that the wedding never even got to the planning stage.

Brad Pitt and Gwyneth Paltrow taking a stroll on Madison Avenue in New York on August 3, 1996 | Source: Getty Images



The couple never wanted to be apart, so they had a policy where they were never apart for more than two weeks. Paltrow said,

"It's too difficult to be separated. It really is."

They invented a system where they were both not filming simultaneously to make their policy work. Pitt would take a break when she was filming and vice versa.

Photo of Brad Pitt and Gwyneth Paltrow at an event | Source: Getty Images


Even while on set, she constantly yearned to be with Pitt. Paltrow was always keen to get back to him. While on the set of a movie, she said,

"I need my Brad to be with me today; I am really missing him."

Later on, she agreed that their relationship "wasn't healthy" and that something between them made her "hate" herself. There were also rumors that she cheated on Pitt with her costar.


Although she never responded to the rumors, Paltrow felt responsible when she and Pitt broke up. She said:

"My kind of internal stuff really tripped up that whole relationship, and I felt really responsible and also like I was the architect of my own misery, and I just made a big mess out of it."

While even their friends saw the "red flags" in their relationships, the couple still felt miserable after it ended. Paltrow was so distraught that she almost missed out on one of her Oscar-winning roles.



Despite the rumors, when they finally broke up, Pitt's publicist, who announced it in June 1997, revealed that there were no third parties involved.

"My father loved him like a son."

The end of their two-and-a-half-year relationship came as a shock to many people who had seen them together. Their hairstylist even said they looked so much in love when she saw them in February that year.

Gwyneth Paltrow and Brad Pitt at the Golden Globes Awards on January 21, 1996 | Source: Getty Images


However, Paltrow started having cold feet after their engagement as she thought she was too young to settle down. The "Shakespeare In Love" actress also felt Pitt was too good for her. She said,

"I think I was a kid and I wasn't ready. He was too good for me."

Paltrow knew she was too young to make such a life-changing decision. According to Pitt's friend, Pitt had called off the relationship because he felt it was more one-sided.


His friend also revealed that Pitt, who is commitment-shy, seemed to appear not so ready for marriage. His friend said:

"He got caught up in the frenzy of getting married, but he really didn't want to."

Her friends were sad to see their relationship end as they liked Pitt. Paltrow's friends even liked Pitt more than her next boyfriend, Ben Affleck.

Gwyneth Paltrow and her father Bruce at the 18th Annual Night Of Stars Awards on October 24, 2001 | Source: Getty Images


Besides her friends, Pitt and Paltrow were not the only ones who were devasted by their breakup. Her parents were also devastated. Paltrow said:

"My father was so devastated when we broke up. My father loved him like a son."

However, decades after their break up, she says they are friendly but don't hang out. Paltrow still had photos with him from their happy times as she believed that every piece of one's life is essential.