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Gwyneth Paltrow 'Never Wanted' to Divorce Ex Who Stood by Her through 2 Cesareans & Losing Her Father

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Apr 23, 2022
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Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin stayed married for ten years before they divorced. The actress made a surprising revelation about her ex-husband and their split years later. Find out what she said.


Chris Martin and Actress Gwyneth Paltrow were married for more than a decade before breaking the surprising news of their divorce. 

Despite their history, the pair remain the poster couple for amicable divorces. They continue to raise the standards for many who strive to establish a cordial relationship with their exes. 

[Left] Picture of Gwyneth Paltrow; [Center] Picture of Gwyneth Paltrow with her kids; [Right] Picture of Chris Martin | Source: Getty Images | instagram./gwynethpaltrow


Paltrow and Martin first met in 2002, when the latter's rock band "Coldplay" was on tour to promote "A Rush of Blood To The Head." During an interview, Paltrow revealed that meeting Martin was all thanks to rumors that she was dating the singer. 

According to Paltrow, during one of Martin's shows, he was expecting an actress he had a crush on to show up, but she did not, and he was angry. So, out of annoyance, he said something that would send the public into a frenzy during a performance. The singer said:

"Oh, this is for my girlfriend, Gwyneth Paltrow."

Gwyneth Paltrow at The Met Gala Celebrating Camp: Notes on Fashion on May 06, 2019, in New York City | Source: Getty Images


The public was shocked, and rumors of a relationship between the duo began to circulate. For the actress, it was more surprising because she had never met Martin before. 

However, due to the press's rumors, Martin and Paltrow eventually had their first encounter backstage. A few weeks after their first meeting, the pair started dating. During their relationship, Paltrow and Martin enjoyed a lot of good times, but they also dealt with difficult situations. 


One of such trying times was when the actress's father passed away in October 2002. It was a challenging experience for Paltrow as she battled depression.

Nevertheless, she had Martin by her side to comfort her. The singer even wrote songs for Paltrow to help her heal, and indeed, it went a long way to help her out of depression. Here are more details about Martin and Paltrow's whirlwind romance.




Martin and Paltrow tied the knot on December 5, 2003, at an intimate ceremony in Santa Barbara, California. According to a report from People, the event was so private that not even family members were present. 

Paltrow was already pregnant with the former couple's first child at the wedding. Not long after, they welcomed their daughter, Apple, on May 14, 2004


A source close to the actress revealed that Paltrow experienced long labor before birthing her daughter, but the mother and child were safe.

Fans were intrigued by the lovely news. However, for a long time, the choice of name for Paltrow's daughter remained a mystery. But in a 2004 interview with Oprah Winfrey, the actress revealed why she chose the name "Apple" for her daughter.


Paltrow noted that Martin had suggested the name when she was pregnant, and she thought it sounded lovely. According to the Hollywood icon, apples were sweet, wholesome, and biblical, hence the decision to give her daughter the name.

Aside from the name choice, another issue Paltrow discussed was her experience with Apple's birth. The award-winning actress explained that she almost died due to the challenges during labor.

In her words: "My daughter was an emergency. It was crazy — we almost died. It was, like, not good." Paltrow pulled through, though, and to date, she is grateful for the birth of her daughter.



Gwyneth Paltrow and her children, son Moses and daughter Apple arriving at the Gare du Nord station on April 15, 2013 in Paris, France | Source: Getty Images

Paltrow and Martin welcomed their second child, a son, in 2006 at Mount Sinai Hospital, New York. The ex-couple named him Moses after a song Martin wrote for his wife in 2003. 


Unfortunately, while many women would bask in the joy of motherhood, Paltrow's case was different. Following Moses' birth, she battled postpartum depression. 



"I was so euphoric when Apple was born, and I assumed it would happen with Mosey, and it just… it took a while. I really went into a dark place," Paltrow shared.

Thankfully, she had her husband by her side. According to the mom of two, Martin was the one who pointed out that she was suffering from postpartum depression (PPD). 

Paltrow said she struggled to bond with Moses and could not understand what was happening. Eventually, her husband told her it was PPD, and although Paltrow argued at first, with research, she finally understood what it was all about and how to get help.


After a few years of dealing with postpartum depression, Paltrow went through yet another devastating experience. She miscarried her third pregnancy and almost lost her life in the process. 

The terrible occurrence caused Paltrow to wonder if she would try to have another baby or if she was okay with her two kids.

Regardless of all the difficulties she faced, Paltrow said she chose the best father for her kids. According to the actress, having children with a good man takes away a heavy weight.


Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin attend the 3rd annual Sean Penn & Friends HELP HAITI HOME Gala benefiting J/P HRO presented by Giorgio Armani at Montage Beverly Hills on January 11, 2014 in Beverly Hills, California | Source: Getty Image


Martin and Paltrow's union appeared full of love and bliss, but rumors of their split began making the rounds. There were speculations of Paltrow's alleged affair with Entertainment Lawyer Kevin Yorn.

However, a spokesperson for Paltrow debunked the rumors, noting that it was completely false. Also, Yorn's representative revealed that the speculations were categorically untrue.

Although Paltrow denied the rumors, she admitted that things were not going so smoothly in her marriage. In her words, "We go through periods that aren't all rosy. I always say, life is long, and you never know what's going to happen."

Musician Chris Martin and Gwyneth Paltrow attending Hollywood Stands Up To Cancer Event on January 28, 2014 in Culver City, California | Source: Getty Images


The actress also revealed there were difficult conversations in the union, which she learned from. Irrespective of the rough times, Martin still felt like he was lucky to have married Paltrow. He once confessed:

"Let's face it. It's like winning the lottery."

In addition, the singer joked about his marriage to Paltrow being a giant leap from being a loser to going out with an Oscar winner.


Actress Gwyneth Paltrow arrives at the LACMA 2015 Art+Film Gala Honoring James Turrell And Alejandro G Inarritu, Presented By Gucci at LACMA on November 7, 2015 in Los Angeles, California | Source: Getty Images


In 2014, after ten years of marriage, Martin and Paltrow separated. In a joint statement shared on the Goop website, the pair said they decided to split through "conscious uncoupling."

The term refers to ending a marriage, but in a way that is viewed as a positive step by both parties, who believe they can continue to remain friends or co-parents and avoid the drama of divorce.


Years after their divorce, Paltrow would reveal that there was a day she realized her marriage to Martin was over. However, it took years before she finally decided to divorce him. 

Even though Paltrow and Martin called it quits, the former once made it known that she never wanted to be divorced. According to her:

"I never wanted to get divorced. I never wanted to not be married to the father of my kids, theoretically."

Sadly, things did not go as planned for Paltrow, but she still maintains a healthy relationship with Martin. The actress says her ex-husband is like a brother to her, and she is grateful to have borne his two children.