Is Mitski Gay? All We Know about the Singer's Sexual Orientation

Mitski's profoundly emotional music is very popular with the LGBTQ+ community, and many fans wonder about the American-Japanese singer-songwriter's sexual orientation.

Irreverent and outrageous, independent singer-songwriter Mitski defies labels, and she has never defined herself as to her sexual orientation. Her mystery is enhanced by her absence from social media and her rare interviews.

However, fans of her music search for clues as to Mitski's inner life and passions in her songs, and the American-Japanese singer's thoughtful lyrics inspire many in the LGBTQ+ community.

Mitski was born Mitsuki Laycock on September 27, 1990, in Japan, to an American father and a Japanese mother. She started singing in the choir in high school and studied music at the SUNY Purchase College Conservatory of Music.

Mitski's first two albums, "Lush" and "Retired from Sad, New Career in Business," were self-released student projects, and she has since released three more studio records.

Mitski has also contributed to several film soundtracks, including "How to Talk to Girls at Parties," starring Elle Fanning and Nicole Kidman, and "Someone Great" starring Gina Rodriguez and Brittany Snow.

She also co-wrote and performed a song, "This Is a Life," for the multiple Academy Award-winning 2022 film, "Everything Everywhere All at Once," which stars Michelle Yeoh, Ke Huy Quan, and Jamie Lee Curtis.

Curiously, the sci-fi film is about an Asian-American multiverse-hopping villain who wants to see her sexuality accepted by her traditional mother.

The LGBTQ+ Community Like Mitski and Her Music

The LGTBQ+ community identifies with Mitski's music and her passionate lyrics, often expressing a yearning for an unachievable love, but the singer has never identified as gay.

The singer is not involved in the social media posts created by her company to promote her work, and she never comments on her private life.

There have been heated debates about Mitski's sexuality, fuelled partly by the reclusive singer's keeping out of the public eye when she's not onstage.

Some question why Mitski is a gay icon when she has never openly identified herself as LGBTQ+, while others feel her sexual orientation is implicit in her songs.

There may not have been a coming-out declaration, but for many, Mitski says it all in the lyrics of her songs. For example, in "Cop Car," from the soundtrack of the horror movie "The Turning," in which she sings:

"I've loved many boys, I've loved many girls/ I don't think about the past, it's always there anyway."

Mitski Tweeted In the Past That Gender Did not Matter to Her

What she is or isn't doesn't seem to be an issue for the singer, who has often remarked that she is indifferent to gender where love is concerned. Mitski said:

"I'm a Libra, so my sexuality is essentially 'you can be any gender as long as you treat me like a princess.'"

Currently, It Is Impossible to Confirm Mitski’s Sexual Orientation

In May 2022, Mitski launched her most recent album, "Laurel Hell," two years after the release of "Be the Cowboy." In a rare interview in which she spoke of the new album, the singer explained her resistance to social media, saying:

"I understand the importance of connectivity, you know? A lot of great change has happened via the internet and social media. But I want us to figure out a way to have that without having our livelihoods depend on it."

The singer is not involved in the social media posts created by her company to promote her work, and she never comments on her private life. Perhaps she feels what matters is her music, not who she loves .-- which is the essence of the LGBTQ+ credo.