My Husband’s Pregnant Friend Names Her Kid after Him but Her Gender Reveal Party Will Shock Us More
My husband's best friend Jane, and I have always had a good relationship. But after she fell pregnant she started to act very weird so I called out her behavior at her baby shower. But now I might have ruined more than just her relationship with John.
I know the controversy of your husband having a female best friend. My friends have had a few very strong opinions about it, but I am actually pretty fine with the dynamic between my husband John, and his best friend Jane.
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I've been married to my husband for seven years, and he and Jane have been friends for ten years. I have no problem with Jane, she's nice and over the years she and I have developed a personal relationship.
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Sometimes we chat alone, but she's definitely closer to my husband. I know this might seem like I am contradicting myself, but from the start, I felt Jane had a crush on my husband.
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I actually believe that she wished she had experienced some kind of connection with John before she met her own husband. This feeling came from looking at old photos and hearing stories from friends.
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Though Jane is married and seems happy, there have been moments that felt off to me. She has been overly affectionate with my husband at times, like sitting on his lap in photos or writing gushy posts on his Facebook wall for his birthday.
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These things never seemed flirty enough to worry about, and since she appeared happy in her marriage, I never mentioned it.
But it did not mean I did not keep a mental note of everything and I continued keeping an eye on how Jane acted around my husband. It was like an undercurrent in our friendship, something not talked about but always there.
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Months ago, Jane's life took a joyful turn as she announced her pregnancy and immediately appointed my husband as the godfather. My husband enthusiastically accepted the role and while I supported him, inwardly, I couldn't help but think, "Of course she did."
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As her pregnancy progressed, Jane's behavior began to take a very weird turn. She insisted on having my husband accompany her and her husband for baby shopping, not once but multiple times.
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It was particularly bizarre when she expressed wanting us to be the first to meet the baby, but it was obvious to me that she mainly wanted my husband there. While I appreciated her involving me, her gesture of including me felt hollow and was overshadowed by her evident focus on my husband.
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The situation intensified when Jane decided to name her baby after my husband. She went as far as posting the announcement on Facebook and packaged it as a tribute to "my dearest and best friend John." This struck me as bizarre, and when I voiced my discomfort to my husband, he saw it merely as a flattering gesture.
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During the gender reveal party, the underlying tension erupted. When Jane, in front of everyone, acted as though my husband was the baby's father, I couldn't contain my confusion and frustration
"Oh, so he DIDN’T tell you?! He’ll be the godfather." she exclaimed, revealing more than intended.
"Yes, I know that. Why the hell are you pretending he's the real dad? You have your husband. Or do you still want to see what it would be like if Will was your husband?" I said.
Then she slipped and said, "YES!!! I mean... of course not!!" she betrayed her true feelings, but she confirmed my suspicions.
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That moment crystallized everything. I grabbed my purse, and left the party, and my husband followed. I tried to explain why that triggered me but while he understood, he never confronted Jane for crossing the line.
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I thought I was done with Jane's weird behavior at the gender reveal party. But she took it even further at the baby shower. The mother-to-be had a small and COVID-friendly event.
I do not know if she was doing it on purpose but my patience was constantly tested. Throughout the celebration, Jane repeatedly referred to my husband as the "Godfather-to-be," which irritated me each time she said it. The build-up of the strange behavior over the past months was becoming too much for me to bear.
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As the party was winding down, Jane asked me to take a photo of her and her husband. After that, she suggested taking another picture, this time including "both the fathers to be." Unable to hold back my frustration, I exclaimed loudly, "Oh, come on! Are you serious?" My reaction caught the attention of everyone in the room and left Jane looking completely shocked.
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Without another word, I left the party and again my husband followed. This time the car ride home was filled with silence. My husband, deep in thought, didn’t say a word until we reached home. That's when he finally acknowledged the inappropriateness of Jane's behavior and expressed regret for not seeing it sooner. However, he was still mad at me for causing a scene and ruining Jane's baby shower.
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Jane was furious with me as well, telling me she never wanted to see me again. My husband worried that my actions had not only harmed his friendship with Jane but also threatened to create a rift within his broader circle of friends.
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After reflecting on these events, I'm torn between feeling justified in my response and questioning if I could have handled the situation more diplomatically. Did my outburst at the baby shower cross a line, or was it a necessary expression of my long-suppressed frustration?
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