Meet Tate Paul: Taylor Frankie Paul's Ex-Husband and Father of Their 2 Kids

A closer look at Tate Paul, the man once at the center of Taylor Frankie Paul’s life — and the father of her two children — reveals a story far more layered than fans expect.

At first glance, he's just the ex. But behind Taylor Frankie Paul's headline-making life is a quieter figure whose story is deeply intertwined with hers — and it doesn't end where you think it does.

Because while the drama made Taylor a household name, Tate remains one of the most intriguing — and least understood — pieces of the puzzle.

Before the Chaos: A Picture-Perfect Beginning

Long before viral scandals and reality TV whispers, Taylor and Tate were building something that looked almost too perfect. Their love story played out in soft, intimate snapshots — none more telling than the moment they became parents for the first time.

In the tender hospital scene, Taylor cradles their newborn daughter as Tate leans in to seal the moment with a quiet kiss. "Indy May Paul officially arrived Aug 31st, weighing 6lbs 9oz. She is perfection, and we are so obsessed with our baby girl. 💗 we are so blessed," Taylor wrote in a post.

That was September 2017 — and at the time, everything seemed blissfully intact.

Growing a Family and a Following

As Indy grew, so did the family’s online presence. Taylor often shared glimpses of motherhood, including a cozy winter moment captured in early 2018. "Mother like daughter," she wrote.

By 2019, their life felt like a curated dream — matching outfits, Easter celebrations, and a toddler full of personality. In a post dated April 19, 2019, celebrating Easter, Taylor wrote, "It's going to be a crackin' Easter, in Indy's case... literally ...but I'm sure that won't stop her from egg hunting🐣."

Behind the smiles, their bond as parents appeared effortless — and deeply united.

Baby Number 2 and a New Chapter

The couple's second child was on the way by late 2019, marking another milestone in what appeared to be a thriving marriage. To celebrate, Taylor made a post with the caption, "Walking into second trimester✨(my fav trimester) baby Paul will be here June 2020! Also Thank you, everyone for the kind words and support yesterday🙏🏼"

Soon after, their son Ocean arrived. "Ocean Paul arrived 4 days ago. 6 lbs 15 oz with lots of hair and a sweet soul," Taylor announced via TikTok.

By 2021, their family of four looked complete, with Taylor celebrating Indy as a loving big sister. "Happy 4th birthday to my sassy sometimes sweet baby girl… Indy is extremely smart and is the cutest big sis to Ocean."

From the outside, Tate wasn't just a husband — he was a hands-on father woven into every chapter of their children's lives.

So, Who Is Tate Paul?

Unlike Taylor, Tate has largely stayed out of the spotlight — but he's far from invisible. His Instagram shows a low-key lifestyle, while his creative side emerges through his music work, where he shares remixes and original tracks.

It's a quieter world — one that feels miles away from the chaos that would soon define his public identity.

The Moment Everything Changed

Then came June 2022. Taylor shocked followers when she revealed that her marriage to Tate was over — and what followed turned their private life into headline fodder. According to People, Taylor exposed a "soft-swinging" arrangement within their social circle, explaining, "I caught feelings for a man that my husband welcomed into our house."

She described a dynamic that escalated over time, involving blurred boundaries and emotional complications. "We do this for a while with this couple […] making out in the same bed […] the girls kissing and the husbands touching the other's wife."

She also explained that as things escalated and progressed, "you could kind of see people are creating feelings at this point. People are getting jealous and weird."

What began as an arrangement eventually unraveled into jealousy, tension, and ultimately, the collapse of their marriage.

Meanwhile, the Spotlight Intensifies

While Tate stepped back, Taylor's life only grew more public — and more complicated. In a candid moment from her Hulu series, she reflected on the aftermath of the scandal and her place in the MomTok community. "I'm Taylor Frankie Paul. I'm 28, and I am from Salt Lake City, Utah. There would be no 'MomTalk' if I hadn't created it."

"Ever since the swing scandal, I do feel on the outs. And so I'm hoping that mom talk, they will kind of give me another shot, and we can all have a fresh start together," she added.

Life After the Split

Despite the explosive fallout, Tate and Taylor didn't completely sever ties. In fact, their relationship evolved into something surprisingly stable. Taylor shared with Distractify that Tate is doing well — and may even be engaged. "My ex is i doing great as far as I know… I love him and his partner, [who is his] fiance, I believe."

Even more unexpected? "We see each other weekly. We're at soccer games, so we're really good co-parents, so we're, like, good friends, and I just really want him to be happy," Taylor added.

But the headlines didn't stop there. A March 19, 2026, report from TMZ detailed a disturbing 2023 incident involving Taylor and her current partner, Dakota Mortensen.

According to the outlet, a police report revealed that a 5-year-old girl was hit during the altercation and later had a "goose egg on her head." The legal aftermath only deepened the controversy.

Taylor eventually pled guilty to the felony and was placed on 3 years' probation, which ends in August — meaning the conviction could be wiped from her record if she complies fully.

As part of the deal, prosecutors dropped 4 other charges, including domestic violence in the presence of a child, child abuse, and criminal mischief. And the situation may not be over yet. TMZ reported ongoing allegations of violence between Taylor and Dakota, alongside an open investigation by the Utah Division of Children and Family Services.

Both have also been ordered to undergo a psych evaluation. Taylor’s team, however, is pushing back hard.

A rep for Taylor told the outlet, "It's sad to see the latest installment of his never-ending, desperate, attention-seeking, destructive campaign to harm Taylor without any regard for the consequences for their child. Releasing an old and selectively edited video on their son's birthday is a reprehensible attempt to distract from his own behavior."

The rep added, "Thankfully, the public has seen this act before and knows who he is and sadly, many will recognize this pattern of manipulation, both in his actions on the show and from their own experiences."

The fallout has even impacted production, with filming on "Secret Lives of Mormon Wives" put on ice after cast members reportedly refused to continue amid the drama.

The Quiet Constant

Through it all, Tate has remained notably absent from the chaos. No public feuds. No dramatic statements. Just a steady presence in his children's lives.

And maybe that's what makes him so compelling. Because while Taylor's story continues to unfold in real time — with new relationships, new headlines, and even a third child born to Dakota in 2024 — Tate represents the part of her life that feels grounded, private, and unexpectedly resilient.

The Real Takeaway

So yes — he's Taylor's ex-husband. But he's also the father of her first two children, a creative in his own right, and, perhaps most surprisingly, someone who turned a very public breakup into a functional, even friendly, co-parenting relationship.

And in a story filled with twists, that might be the most unexpected detail of all.