August 08, 2018

My 3-year-old stepchild tells me my husband kisses his mommy. Should I believe him?

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Dear AmoMama,

My husband and I have been married for 3 very happy years now, and I am very much in love with him. He was in a long-term relationship before we met that ended badly when the woman cheated on him. He has a little 3-year-old son by this woman who spends alternate weekends with us at our house.

Last weekend my baby stepson, "Jack," who is bright as a button and very affectionate, ran to me, hugged me and started kissing me on the mouth and clutching at my breast.

I started laughing and asked him why he was doing that and he said that he loved me and "because that is how daddy kisses mommy when I go home."


I felt like my world just crumbled. My husband always takes "Jack" home on Sunday afternoons on his own, and usually comes back a few hours later. 

I never thought anything of it, it never occurred to me he could be cheating with this woman. We've even been discussing having a baby.

I don't know whether to credit the baby's words as real, children have such vivid imaginations. And yet I can't dismiss the story as baby prattle.

My instinct tells me to confront my husband, tell him what "Jack" said and what I've come to believe, but at the same time, I'm petrified of what he will say.


He might dismiss it as a baby's imagination, or he might confirm my worse suspicions.

Should I let this go? Should I carry on as usual until some other evidence surfaces? I can't believe he is cheating on me, I don't want to believe it. Please, someone, give me some advice.

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