I've got a delicate problem with my husband. What should I do?

Dear Amomama,

I feel a little uncomfortable talking about this. I hope you can understand me. I have a very delicate problem with my husband that I do not know how to deal with anymore. In this situation, I don't know what to do.

I do not know how to express myself correctly. Long story short, my husband is very manly. I would say that he is too much of a man. To the point that I'm starting to be disgusted by it. Maybe this issue could go unnoticed in the winter, but in the summer, well, it's just a catastrophe.

The thing is that I'm very sensitive about smells. Because my husband smells so bad! When he gets home after work, I cannot talk to him until he goes to the bathroom and takes a shower!

I thought about forcing him to shave his armpits but I think it's not the only thing that has to do with his intense smell. I think it would be better for him if he shaves "there" but I cannot find a way to tell him about it. It's a pity, I think he could be offended by me

When I noticed the smell for the first time we were in the bedroom. I was in bed with my husband, and then, I felt a strange smell coming off of him. It was horrible, he just reeked. I do not know why. Maybe I used to love him that much that I've never paid attention to him and his hygiene habits. I have a hard time talking about that, but it's horrible!

I still do not know how this whole situation happened because he is a young 26-year-old man. In general, he doesn't even like to look at himself in the mirror. Sometimes, he washes his face very quickly and in a poorly manner, and goes out without even caring about it.

I have even tried to seduce him to have a romantic bath together, but he just doesn't want to. He thinks that it is just a waste of time and money on water. How can I keep up with the smell? It's like he doesn't know how to take a proper shower.

He even went to work once in a dirty T-shirt stating that "if I'm going to get dirty again, why should I use clean clothes to go to work at the construction site?" And I kind of get it, but I just can't stand it anymore.

My disgusted face and my requests for him to take a bath haven't had any results yet. He thinks I'm just being overly sensitive about it and says that's how a man should smell like. But he doesn't understand that he needs to wash thoroughly. What should I do with this problem?

Could anybody help me with some tricks or tips to follow to make my husband smell better, or at least a little nicer? I just want to be able to hug him again without suffocating. Please, I need help!

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