'I recently caught my dad cheating on my mom'
I caught my father cheating on my mom, and besides being extremely mad at him, I don’t know how to handle the situation. I’m already in my thirties and shouldn’t be dealing with this kind of situations, but my mom is very depressive, and I’m afraid what could happen if she founds out.
You know those situations you always read and think, “wow, that must be hard, I wouldn’t like to be in that position”? And you swear that it’ll never happen to you? Yeah. I feel like that.
I was supposed to pick up my father, he’s 50 by the way, at a mall where he was allegedly running some errands to go home for a family gathering. We had agreed to meet on the street at the front, so I didn’t have to pay for the parking lot, but he was fifteen minutes late and didn’t pick up his phone.
I got worried, of course, so I called my mom to see if anyone had heard from him but the answer was negative. She told he would call him, but he still didn’t pick up. So, at this point, I was worried and decided to look for him by myself.
I walked into the mall and, unfortunately, didn’t have to look for long. He was right at the entrance, kissing some woman I have never seen in my life in front of everyone like a teenager. He didn’t saw me, and I turned around back to the car immediately.
I honestly couldn’t believe what was happening. My parents have been married for over 30 years; they always set an excellent example for my family about how a loving and respectful marriage should look like. Emphasis on the word “look” because now I understand everything is not what it seems.
Anyway, five minutes later here he comes, lying about being on a line at some bank, and I couldn’t help but start crying in disbelief, because now he was lying to me too, and it was so easy for him.
When my sarcastic answers finally made him understand I saw him, he started crying too. Telling me how it was a mistake and that woman was just some friend who got things twisted and came onto him. He asked me not to tell my mom because it’ll ruin our family.
I don’t know what to believe. And I don’t know what to do. My mom, as I mentioned before, is depressive, and I’m afraid of what could happen in she founds out my dad might be possibly cheating on him, who knows for how long.
I don’t want to ruin my family, but I feel sorry for keeping this from my mom. What should I do?
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