Debra Messing's Son Roman Is All Grown-Up and Looks a Lot like His Famous Mom

"Will & Grace" star Debra Messing's son Roman looks just like his mom.

Debra Messing is the proud mom of Roman Walker Zelman,  whom she shares with ex-husband actor/ producer Daniel Zelman.

Roman is about to turn 16 and is a handsome young man who favors his famous mom.

Debra and her now 15-year-old son went on vacation together to South East Asia

Debra Messing on "The Tonight Show With Jay Leno" in 2012 | Source: Getty Images

Debra Messing on "The Tonight Show With Jay Leno" in 2012 | Source: Getty Images


Debra met her future husband, Daniel Zelman, on their first day as graduate students at New York University in 1990. Debra became an actress, and Daniel a screenwriter and actor.

After a 10-year relationship, they married in 2000, and in 2004, Debra gave birth to their only child, Roman. 

Debra Messing and ex-husband Daniel Zelman at the 61st Primetime Emmy Awards in 2009 | Source: Getty Images

Debra Messing and ex-husband Daniel Zelman at the 61st Primetime Emmy Awards in 2009 | Source: Getty Images


In 2011, Debra and Daniel announced their divorce after 10 years of marriage. Roman was then 5 years old. Debra revealed:

"Every thought is dictated by what’s best for our son.  We are completely on the same page in that regard.  We are dear friends."


Daniel and Debra contended over the division of property, but they were in complete agreement over their son Roman, whom they are amicably co-parenting. Debra revealed:

“Now we are co-parenting beautifully We had Thanksgiving together. In my mind, we will be a nuclear family forever."


After her separation from Daniel, Debra was in a romantic relationship with her costar from the hit musical drama "Smash," Will Chase. The two were involved ina volatile on-again/off-again relationship that lasted from 2011 to 2014.


In December 2019, Debra and her now 15-year-old son went on vacation together to South East Asia. Debra shared a series of stunning snaps on Instagram that showed mother and son enjoying the country's natural beauties and vistas.

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You didn’t seriously think we’d go to Thailand without going to an elephant rescue, did you? This is @elephantnaturepark and it has been rescuing working elephants since 1985. All of the elephants came to the park traumatized, horribly abused (blinded by slingshot because they refused to work), maimed (from stepping on land mines, hips broken from unsustainable work), and they are cared for, loved, and ultimately create new herds to call their family. We saw several who are now so healthy that they are free to roam, but most are cared for in a more structured way. We walked to the river so a few could go swimming. We met their oldest elephant who is 101. They ALSO rescued 500 street dogs and 700 cats. Not to mention water buffalo, monkey and turtle! It is an incredibly impressive rescue and they have others in varying stages of completion in Laos, Cambodia and Vietnam (I think!). We had hoped to meet Lek, who started the park but she was in Cambodia, however we met her husband and a wonderful worker, Tommy, who gave us the tour. If you are interested in saving, and protecting elephants, please consider giving to #elephantnaturecamp. It is a non-riding sanctuary that puts the elephants first, above all else. 🙏🏻@elephantnaturefoundation #elephantsantuary #elephantnatureparkchiangmai

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During their trip. mother and son spent time on an elephant rescue sanctuary, where dozens of mistreated animals are nursed back to health, and protected. Debra wrote on Instagram:

"You didn’t seriously think we’d go to Thailand without going to an elephant rescue, did you?"

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And then... Chiang Mai, THAILAND! The hotel is so breathtaking it left me dumbstruck. We went to the famed Night Market where we could have fish eat the dead skin off our feet, or have a custom made suit produced over night. The fabric choices were ...well, fun. We went to the morning market and saw heretofore unknown vegetables. Do any of you recognize that green thing?! Bold colors everywhere. I had a hard time going through the meat area where they have full pigs heads on display. My son thought it was hilarious I felt nauseous. We went ziplining through the jungle! My first time, and I loved it! It was crazy high and super fast. My chiropractor made me PROMISE to wear a neck brace since I injured my neck in a car accident and then shortly after again on the set of “Searching.” He also made me promise to get a picture wearing it. So, this one is for you Dr T! I did it and I survived. Win win.🐛🦎🦟🦗🐒🌴🌿🌎

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The duo spent part of their holiday in a stunning resort in Chiang Mai, surrounded by the peace and beauty of the jungle. Debra and Roman also enjoyed some adventures on the treetops and did some radical ziplining through the dense Thailandese jungles.

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Luang Prabang is so magical. (📸:@joshlucas).

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On the second leg of their trip, Roman and Debra enjoyed the beauties of Luang Prabang, the ancient capital of Luang Prabang Province in northern Laos. Debra shared an awe-inspiring photo of a rope bridge, slung over a river, being crossed by Buddhist monks.


Another snap showed Debra and Roman relaxing on the boat as they traveled on the Mekong River to the Tham Pak Ou caves, famous for holding 4000 Buddhas, and where people render offerings. Debra revealed that many of the offerings are to solicit protection from the devastating monsoon which has left the region devastated.

Debra and Roman ended up running into a good friend, actor Josh Lucas, who was also vacationing in Laos over the New Year. 

Josh played Debra's estranged husband in the NBC detective series, "The Mysteries of Laura," from 2015 to 2016. Roman and Debra ended up spending their New Year among friends and in good cheer.


Debra has been involved in a series of made-for-TV movies, including the 2017 remake of the iconic 80s hit musical, "Dirty Dancing" in which she played Marjorie Houseman. 

In 2018, she worked on the mystery thriller, "Searching," alongside John Cho as a police detective committed to finding a missing teen.

Due to premiere this year is Debra's latest project, "Irresistible," a political comedy directed by Jon Stewart. 
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