Usher Once Opened up about Calling off First Wedding to His Then-Pregnant Ex-wife Tameka
Usher's marriage to stylist Tameka Foster was contentious and short-lived, and the singer had already called off the wedding once.
R&B artist Usher revealed why he had called off his first wedding to ex-wife Tameka Foster while she was pregnant with their first child, Usher "Cinco" Raymond V.
Usher opened up to Oprah Winfrey on "Oprah's Next Chapter" about the marriage, and his relationship with his ex-wife, and his children.
Usher confessed to Oprah that although he was sexually faithful, he felt he betrayed Tameka emotionally
THE CANCELED WEDDING
In July 2007, the announced wedding between R&B artist Usher and his fiancé stylist Tameka Foster was canceled by the R&B artist, just hours before the cerimony was scheduled to take place.
Usher revealed to Oprah, that although Tameka was 5 months pregnant and he had spent $1 million on the celebration, he didn't feel ready, and called it off at the last minute.
A month later, Usher and Tameka tied the knot in an intimate civil ceremony in Atlanta Georgia. Usher confessed to Oprah that he wanted to step up to his responsibilities, especially since he'd grown up without his father, who had abandoned the family when the singer was 1 year old.
On September 1, 2007, Usher and Tameka celebrated their union at a lavish reception held at the Chateau Elan Winery & Resort outside Atlanta. The singer's mother, Jonetta Patton, did not attend the wedding and spent the day at a spa.
HEEDING THE WARNINGS
Usher confessed that although his intuition had led him to cancel the first wedding he'd scheduled, he went ahead with his commitment because he was in love with Tameka. The singer revealed that many of the people in his life had been against the marriage - including his mother. He said:
"You know…this is supposed to be the person that I feel I'm going to share the rest of my life with and nobody is responding the way that I'd like them to respond."
Usher became a caring stepfather to Tameka's 3 children from previous relationships and welcomed their first child together, Usher, in November 2007. A year later, in December 2008, the couple welcomed their second son Naviyd.
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY Naviyd!!! @fortnav ✉️💚💚💚💚“Good News” One thing everybody looks for, everybody can appreciate, and everybody needs from time to time. You are that for me , and then some. Naviyd....that is why I wanted you to have that name....and spelled that way, because it would be your own. Ya’ll know how black folk be getting creative as hell wit the spellin of our kids names. You are uniquely your own....there is no other like you. God sent you through me (you know where you came from)😉👍🏾. Naviyd “The Good News” you came at a very unexpected time in my life and I’m happy you did. Its Persian. I can get biblical and all “The good news” (or “gospel” = “good spiel”) is a literal translation of the Greek word euangelion. The news of salvation, or liberation from darkness or brokenness. You humbled me... Happy Birthday to my Lil Man...I know you hear that all the time, but you really are a Little MAN....and though age 10 may only entitled you to labels like young man and big boy, you ain’t far from a young adult....you remind me so much of myself, within that phase of my life. Where I wanted everybody to be happy....with themselves and with me. Well I have “The Good News” for you Mr. Naviyd Ely Raymond this birthday celebration. You cain’t make everybody happy, but what you can do is be happy yourself. No matter what it may look like....you can always make it better with your intentions. I love you so much and want so much for you to be happy 100% , as you are? Just keep on living!!! You have been through so much for someone your age and you have so much to see and learn. I’m so proud of you. You are my oldest youngest child. They say it’s not right to have a favorite child and I don’t....but you are singlehandedly my favorite 10 year old. You worry so much about what others think, to the point were you actually have more grey hair than me.😌 Take care of yourself and try and stay positive. Gotta make sure your mask is on before you can help others. Love you Son #NaNaTurns10 #NaviydRaymond #Level10 @fortnav
TO BE OR NOT TO BE FAITHFULL
Shortly after the birth of their second son, Usher filed for divorce from Tameka, amid allegations of infidelity on his part. Usher confessed to Oprah that although he was sexually faithful, he felt he betrayed Tameka emotionally. He said:
"Even having a conversation with another woman, period, about matters of your relationship or emotions is, in my opinion, not being faithful."
A HORRIFIC TRAGEDY
Initially, Tameka had custody of their common children, but Usher sued for custody of Usher Jr and Naviyd. In 2012, Tameka's oldest son Kile Glover, 12, was struck by a water scooter while swimming in Lake Lanier in Northern Georgia. The boy passed away on July 21, 2012, and Usher temporarily suspended his custody battle.
CUSTODY OF HIS CHILDREN
Later that year, the judge awarded primary custody of Usher Jr and Naviyd, 4 and 3 years old respectively to Usher. The singer confessed that he had tried to maintain a friendly relationship with his ex-wife, and failed. He said:
"I really felt like we were friends. She made us enemies in a way that I could never understand."
A year after the death of Tameka's son Kile, Usher Jr was involved in a drowning accident at the family pool when he was stuck in a drain. Usher Jr was rushed to the hospital. Usher Jr recovered from the incident, but Tameka immediately sought to capitalize on the incident and asked for custody of the boys.
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I can remember when I turned 11 (forever ago) it was the beginning of me understanding that I had began to grow up and that I needed to care about somethin’.... Bad breath, hygiene, the use of deodorant, a career, other people, how I treated them, and what mattered...at least to me. I began to understand that if I were to be great at anything I’d have to start somewhere, with somethin. The way I carried myself would speak to who I was and what my life would look like. Sure...you got your plate full with things that really matter, like Pokémon cards, V bucks, GameStop cards, Fortnite, Tom Clancy and homework. “Priorities” Know this Son...I love the U you are. I wish you passion for what you love and hopes that you have compassion for others. Thank you for picking me as your dad and coming to me when you did. Thank you to your mother for delivering you and the hospital and hands that handled you....You gotta believe in U more than anybody. If you don’t believe, NO ONE WILL. #HappyBirthday #URV
She was refused, and the Judge confirmed Usher's primary custody of his boys. The singer has admitted that being a single father brought enormous change into his life.
The doting father refuses regrets over his brief and disastrous marriage and commented that Tameka was the best mistake he'd ever made because it brought him his beloved children.
In the last few years, Usher and Tameka have come to an amicable understanding for the sake of their children, and are now friendly co-parents.