James May Is Not Married but Lives with His Partner Sarah Frater

Despite being one of the most well-known media personalities, James May's love life remains shrouded in a bit of mystery. The only woman who's ever been romantically linked to him is a writer, Sarah Frater, but even their relationship has been kept under wraps.

James May's partner, Sarah Frater, is a writer and dance critic. She was born in the United Kingdom in 1967. Although Frater led a private life, her name was thrust into the spotlight when her romance with May became public news.

Fans of the media personality have since been curious about her and their relationship. Some sources have even reported that the two were married, considering how long they'd been together; however, May hasn't made any such announcement.

May and Frater have been romantic partners for decades, but the couple has no children and has never married. They recently built a home together, and although it was a noteworthy milestone, May had some worries.

James and Sarah Are Serious about Keeping Their Lives Private

May and Frater began dating in 2000, making this year their 23rd as a couple. They lived together in Hammersmith, and only one of them, May, has a social media presence. However, he has never shared anything about Frater on his social pages.

Most, if not all, of the content May shares on his Instagram pertain to work, whether it's a post about electric cars, promoting his colleagues and collaborations, enjoying sandwiches made by youths, or a drink with friends.

James Opened Up About His Worries In the New Home He Shares With Sarah

In July 2022, May revealed that he and Frater had built a new home, though he never disclosed its location. Reflecting on this milestone, he said all the other homes he shared with his beau were "just places on the way." Yet, when it came to this one, he said:

"I'm living in a house that feels like a destination, and it's slightly disturbing. I'm just worried I'll end up thinking, right, I've done all that now, I had a good crack at it and was very fortunate and now I'll – and I can't stand this expression – 'enjoy the rest of my life.'"

Except, May didn't think he would enjoy it; he only imagined sitting in his new home, "waiting for The End." He expressed his fears during his interview with The Times last year, where he also shared some opinions about his friend Jeremy Clarkson.

Unlike May, Clarkson's love life—and those of other TV hosts, including TJ Holmes and mom of two Amy Robach—has made headlines in previous years. He was once married to former redundancy counselor Frances Cain.

James Once Revealed Why He Doesn't Have Children

Although he never spoke of Frater's feelings about the matter, May believed he wouldn't have been a good father. In fact, he imagined if he had children, they would have grown up to be "glue-sniffing hippies."

He had no regrets about not having kids and even saw benefits to being childless. Contrary to leading a career that involved the constant testing and use of vehicles, May said having no offspring significantly reduced his carbon footprint.

Still, he recognized the youth's influence on the future and its essential need for guidance from the older generation. Despite the ageism that has existed among the generations, May recognized the necessity of youngsters challenging old norms, saying that's how it should be.

Otherwise, they wouldn't be fulfilling their role of being young people. He added that older generations should refrain from trying to live vicariously through the younger ones, turning them into "shells" of themselves; they needn't be vessels for redressing the things in which they were once disappointed.