Out of 8 Kids, Mom Kicked One Son Out of Home — Now Son Chooses In-Laws over Sick Mom

• A man felt his mom never valued him as much as her other children because she treated him unfairly.
• He never realized how wrong his situation was until he met his wife and parents-in-law.
• The man's mom started reconnecting after she was diagnosed with cancer, but at the time, the man made it clear she wasn't his priority.

A man grew up in a big household. His mom had eight children, and he was the fourth child. Growing up, the man felt excluded from the rest of his siblings, believing his mom hated him because of how differently she treated him.

The man deduced that she might have treated him differently because of how much he resembled his dad. His dad wasn't in the picture, likely making his mom project all her hatred on him.

When the man was 16, their house burned down. They had to move into a friend's basement, and at the time, his mom told him to get out and find another place because they couldn't fit.

This surprised him because she never gave his two older sisters the same order. They continued to live with her for years.

When his mom bounced back and moved to a house the following year, he moved back in. But when he turned 18, his mom demanded rent. His older sisters were also supposed to pay rent, but his mom never strictly imposed it on them. Meanwhile, he had to pay on time every month.

The man never realized how poorly he was treated until he met his wife and parents-in-law. He acknowledged that while he understood how difficult it was for his single mom to raise eight children, she never tried her best when it came to him.

The Man's Mom Reconnected After Years

Years later, the man and his wife were living a good life. They were close to the wife's parents and visited often. Meanwhile, his mom tried to repair their relationship. She was diagnosed with skin cancer and felt it was time to reconnect with the son she lost touch with.

While the mom's cancer wasn't aggressive, she needed more surgery before she could go into remission. The mom happily invited her son over during the holidays and on weekends and would randomly call every few months to complain about his siblings.

The man always remained civil. However, one particular phone call turned his siblings against him. His mom asked if he could come visit her for the weekend. Instead of obliging, he said that he needed to ask his wife what days they would visit his in-laws.

"Why can't you set a date with me and then go to [your wife's] parents' house on the opposite day?" the mom asked.

The man told his mother that he would always prioritize visiting his wife's parents, and his in-laws always got to pick the day they would visit.

This hurt his mom, who felt excluded and unimportant to her son. He apologized, saying he "didn't mean it like that," but they both knew he did.

His Siblings Slammed Him for What He Did

Soon after, the mom's favorite child, the man's younger sister, called him. She accused him of stressing out their mom, which could worsen her illness.

“She (my sister) told me mom called her crying. I said mom's an adult who can manage her own feelings and I'm not responsible for them," he shared.

His sister threatened him, saying it was on him if anything happened to their mother. She demanded he call their mother to assure her that he loved her. However, the man didn't think it was necessary.

Later, his sister called his wife, thinking she could knock some sense into him. The truth was that if it were up to the man's wife, they wouldn't have contact with him at all. She knew what the man had endured and didn't want him to stay in a toxic situation just because they were family.

What would you have done if you were in the man's situation? Do you think it was valid for him to prioritize his in-laws over his sick mother?

In a similar story about in-laws, a woman showed her husband a private message her mother-in-law sent her, driving her husband to storm into his mom's home late at night and cut ties with her.