Parents refuse to tell anyone if their child is a boy or a girl. Why?

Apr 17, 2018
10:20 A.M.
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The mother and father from Utah don’t want other people to know about their toddler’s gender.


The couple decided that they wanted to raise their two-year-old child in a gender-neutral environment. The wife shared their reasons on her blog.

The Sun revealed that Kyl and Brent Myer are both active members of the Gender Creative Parenting movement.

Together, they share their two-year-old child named Zoomer or Z for short.

Both parents made the decision not to tell other people whether their child is a boy or a girl.


As explained by the publication, Zoomer is a “theyby.”

The pair shared that they don’t share the sex of their child to other people who ‘don’t need to know.’ Only their immediate family has knowledge of Zoomer’s gender.

In raising little Zoomer, Kyl and Brent only use gender neutral pronouns when referring to the two-year-old. They only use pronouns like they, them, and their.


It is their attempt at freeing the child from the burden of being boxed in a specific gender.

Kyl has a blog called Raising Zoomer where she shares the whole experience.

She wrote that the gender of the child does not tell us about their personality, temperament, and other such traits.

Although, Kyl clarified that they are not refusing their child of the freedom to express any gender-specific preferences.


She also explained that when Zoomer reaches three or four, it is most likely that the child will choose a gender by that point.

Kyl added that she and her husband don’t think that it is their decision to choose their child’s gender but it is Zoomer’s.

She continued, ‘By not revealing their sex, and by treating them in a gender creative way, Z will have the freedom to explore and create their own identity, outside of the restrictions and expectations of traditional gender norms.’

More and more parents are trying out this raising technique as a way of acknowledging the importance of living in a gender-neutral society.