I have a hormone imbalance. I'm ashamed of my hairy body, and afraid to have sex with my husband

Dear AmoMama,

I am 43-years-old, and in the last 6 months, my life has turned into a nightmare. First I noticed that my hair growth on my legs had increased dramatically, then the hair on my arms grew denser and darker, and a line of fuzz on my back quickly grew into a dense ridge of hair down my spine, and hair follicles started sprouting on my belly and chest too.

I went to the doctor, and he immediately diagnosed a thyroid disorder, and I was operated on to remove a benign cyst.

I kept hoping, but the hair did not vanish. It grew slightly sparser, but the doctor advised permanent removal by electrolysis.

I spoke to my dermatologist and he advised against it since it would possibly worsen a skin inflammation I have due to an auto-immune condition.

The truth is that since my hirsutism started to manifest itself, I haven't let my husband near me.

I don't want him to see me like this, I can't stand the idea of him touch my repellent body.

He keeps telling me he loves me and wants me, but every time I imagine him touching my hairy body I want to cry.

I am taking meds which will hopefully help, but the doctor says it may take a long time, but my husband seems to be running out of patience with what he calls my 'silliness.'

How can I make him understand how frightened I am that he will touch me and not want me?

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