Weddings are an emotional time and not just for the couple themselves but for their parents too. It's mom and dad who have to watch them take that tentative step into the unknown. It's the terrified parents that have to relinquish their hold and allow their little fledglings to take flight.
Guests talk, laugh, and gossip, they discuss the food, the dress, and the mementos. But some will also think back to their wedding day, maybe of people they have loved and lost.
Tears tend to flow freely, especially when vows are written by the bride and groom themselves and speak of eternal love and longing.
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Much fuss is made of the father/daughter dance at the wedding, but a young man who gets married leaves another special woman behind to start his life with someone new.
His mother. His champion. She who would cross the desert barefoot to make sure his particular brand of cereal never runs out.
Their dance speaks of new beginnings. The groom is no longer her little boy, but in her sadness lies her pride at the man he has become.
A few close friends and family may understand the significance of a particular song chosen. Perhaps it is something that speaks to the hardships she endured to raise her son properly.
Perhaps it references some other trying time; the loss of a sibling or the other parent or some abuse that they overcame together through love, prayer, and mutual devotion.
The son must choose the song wisely, for this is his last significant chance to tell the most important woman in his life thus far everything she has meant to him and how much he appreciates her.
Here are our top 5 song suggestions for that special mother-son first dance:
Memories of your mother will always include the useful advice she gave you while you were growing up. They are the kind of things you will find yourself saying to your own children someday. And the lyrics to this song go:
"Mama told me when I was young
Come sit beside me, my only son
And listen closely to what I say.
And if you do this
It'll help you some sunny day.
Oh Yah! Oh, take your time...
Don't live too fast,
Troubles will come and they will pass.
You'll find a woman, yea yea, you'll find love,
And don't forget son,
There is someone up above"
A song that shows the eternal bond between mother and son – who can forget these wholesome lyrics:
"You taught me everything
And everything you've given me
I always keep it inside
You're the driving force in my life, yeah
There isn't anything
Or anyone that I can be
And it just wouldn't feel right
If I didn't have you by my side"
Céline has a way of putting into words what many can't say, but we guarantee there won't be a dry eye in the room afterward. These lyrics will never age:
"You were my strength when I was weak
You were my voice when I couldn't speak
You were my eyes when I couldn't see
You saw the best there was in me
Lifted me up when I couldn't reach
You gave me faith coz you believed
I'm everything I am
Because you loved me"
Bette Midler made it famous but this song has been sung so many times, and by so many people, all you have to do is find the version you love the best and just dance to it. The lyrics say everything you want to hear:
"It might have appeared to go unnoticed
But I've got it all here in my heart
I want you to know,
I know the truth, of course I know it
I would be nothing without you
Did you ever know that you're my hero
You're everything I wish I could be
If could fly higher than an eagle
You are the wind beneath my wings"
One of the most heartbreaking mother/son dances has to be between a duo who lost their significant other early and were forced to be each other's lifeboat during the storm. A song for mother and son, in honor of a dad who has passed. The lyrics depict the bond so well:
"How he loves your old guitar
Yeah, he's taught himself to play
He melts my heart
Tells me he loves me every day
And cracks jokes at the perfect time
Makes me laugh when I want to cry
That boy is everything to me"
There are hundreds of songs to choose from in every genre, if you haven't found the one that speaks to you yet, keep looking. It is out there.
And remember to hold your boy tight. He will be a groom hopefully just once, but he will be your son forever.
December 28, 2018
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