Tamar Braxton's Apology to 'The Real' Co-Hosts, Iyanla Vanzant & It's All Thanks to David
Tamar Braxton has posted a sincere apology on Instagram for her past behavior and attributed the credit to David Adefeso.
The always.tempestuous Tamar Braxton has been going through some changes, and her new love, David Adefeso seems to be the reason.
Tamar stunned her friends and followers by posting a public apology, along with a video clip on Instagram.
“When all you know and feel is hurt. You hurt. Self-inflicted and to others are included. From my sisters, the ladies of the real, Iyanla, old and new Friends and whomever else I’ve EVER hurt, from being hurt. Please forgive me." Tamar Braxton
TAMAR BRAXTON APOLOGISES TO THE PEOPLE SHE HURT
Tamar's clip shows the entire family at a water park, along with her boyfriend, David Adefeso, having a wonderful time to the sound of her hit, "Free Fallin'.".
The caption contains a heartfelt apology to her co-hosts of "The Real," Adrienne Houghton, Jeannie Mai, Tamera Mowry-Housley, and Loni Love, among others.
It looks like David's good love has turned Tamar's life around.
TAMAR BRAXTON REGRETS HER BEHAVIOR ON "IYANIA: FIX MY LIFE"
Other than the ladies from "The Real," Tamar specifically named inspirational speaker Iyanla Vanzant from "Iyanla: Fix My Life" whom she had previously accused of victim-shaming after she confessed she had been the victim of sexual abuse as a child.
TAMAR BRAXTON'S SHOUT OUT TO HER SISTERS
Tamar also addressed her sisters, with whom she often clashes. A recent case in point would be an incident in which Tamar threw a tantrum when sister Trina's boyfriend Von Scales sprung a surprise wedding proposal during her birthday dinner.
DAVID ADEFESO'S INFLUENCE ON TAMAR BRAXTON'S LIFE
Tamar attributes her change in attitude to her boyfriend, David, who has had an enormous influence in her life by showing her love and understanding.
"I didn’t know love to show you love. Now I do thanks to my @david.adefeso,” she wrote.
Fans were delighted to see Tamar reaching such a good place in her life, and embracing her friends and family with a new understanding, while others were skeptical about the permanence of the transformation. Only time will tell, but it takes a big woman to own her flaws. Well done, Tamar.
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When I met my @tamarbraxton 12 months ago she was angry, distraught and almost-completely broken. She'd lost her family, her friends, her job and was estranged from her mom and sisters who she loves so much. While her behavior was a significant cause of these misfortunes, it took me a while to recognize that there were other equally valid causes, including being repeatedly assaulted by men in her life she trusted (first physically as a child, then emotionally later on in life by deeply aggressive and utterly controlling romantic relationships); finally culminating in the continuing psychological damage brought on by working on a TV show she feels utterly shackled to due to contract terms. This is what I inherited so I had a choice: to continue the emotional and psychological abuse she had endured for almost 3 decades by being aggressively controlling and manipulative or to be a kind, gentle and loving friend and lover to the woman I love- Well, I chose the latter, and the results have been outstanding! With few exceptions the anger has been replaced by joy, the despair has morphed into a need to help the abused (check out #NoNeedTBShame), and the kind, gentle, beautiful and self-assured woman that is my @tamarbraxton is now on full display (check out our social media activities over the past 3 months since the show was shot and see the new Tamar)! A word to our strong black men who are in relationships with our beautiful black women- when you make a commitment to love that sista, it is your duty and responsibility to STAND BY YOUR WOMAN. PERIOD! Irrespective of wealth, power or fame, many of our women have endured the same challenges that my Tamar has, including physical and emotional abuse, endemic marginalization, controlling romantic relationships and desertion by black men. Some of what many have condescendingly coined as #AngryBlackWoman is simply a reflection of, and reaction to, the life experiences of our beautiful black women. So gentlemen, we DO NOT abandon our sistas when things get tough, and especially when they need us the most. We love them through it, we support them through it, and we protect them through it! #BlackMenStandUpForBlackWomen
DAVID ADEFESO TALKED ABOUT THE TRANSFORMING POWER OF LOVE
David Adefeso posted a touching statement about Tamar Braxton and the complex causes of her sometimes difficult behavior - and how he decided to handle it.
"While her behavior was a significant cause of these misfortunes, it took me a while to recognize that there were other equally valid causes, including being repeatedly assaulted by men in her life she trusted (first physically as a child, then emotionally later on in life by deeply aggressive and utterly controlling romantic relationships)," he wrote.
David Adefeso, who met Tamar just a few months after she filed for divorce from her husband of eight years, Vince Herbert, was determined to break the pattern.
"This is what I inherited so I had a choice: to continue the emotional and psychological abuse she had endured for almost 3 decades by being aggressively controlling and manipulative or to be a kind, gentle and loving friend and lover to the woman I love- Well, I chose the latter," said David.
It looks like David's good love has turned Tamar's life around. Hang on to this one, Tamar. He's a keeper.