September 22, 2021
A Reddit woman had recently discovered that her colleague had feelings for her. She instantly informed her husband about the situation, and he was outraged. He then demanded she quit her job, but she refused.
Relationships require many sacrifices, but sometimes one spouse can ask their partner to give up too much and put their entire marriage at risk. A few months ago, Reddit user Prudent_Coat8988 posted on the platform about how her colleague confessed his feelings for her and how it completely turned her life upside down.
In relationships, people often don't know when they're sacrificing too much. Research has shown in the past that couples are happier when they're are willing to sacrifice for each other. However, even though being selfless is necessary for a relationship, it's not always easy.
HUSBAND DEMANDS WIFE QUITS JOB OVER COLLEAGUE'S CRUSH
In the Reddit post, Prudent_Coat8988 explained that she had been working on a research project with a colleague for almost two years, but then something happened. Her research partner sent her an email confessing his feelings towards her, and then she immediately showed it to her husband.
To her surprise, the husband was insulted by what had happened and insisted that it was her fault and she should quit her job. The Redditor snorted derisively and told her husband that there was no way she would leave her job. Her husband then changed the locks while at work and put her things on the patio, effectively kicking her out of the house. She later came back with an update saying,
"Hubby called me. Long story short he's been extremely anxious each day when I leave for work and buckled from that pressure today. I'm "welcome back" home once I've quit my job, which is obviously still unacceptable.
It didn't take long for other Redditors to respond to the post. Most of the comments were supportive, and one Redditor said that her husband was "treating her like a possession.". Another then claimed that her husband was "immature" and advised the Redditor to file for divorce immediately.
HUSBAND ENDS UP IN THE HOSPITAL FOR CONFRONTING WIFE'S BOSS
An anonymous Reddit user posted a similar story to Prudent_Coat8988, but in her case, her husband took things a step further. According to the user, her husband noticed an attractive man on her Instagram feed, and when he found out it was her supervisor, he became furious.
The Reddit user explained that her supervisor had never done anything inappropriate, and they have a healthy working relationship. Then, one day, when she was coming back from her lunch break, she found out that her husband got into a fight with her supervisor and ended up in the hospital. She then ended the post bysaying
"I don't want to quit my job but I fear I won't be welcome there anyway because of what he did, but in the chance that I am, I would like to stay because of how hard it was for me to find this job and all the progress I've made. I don't want to leave my husband either over something so stupid and I wish he would come around.
CAN A CRUSH AT WORK RUIN A MARRIAGE?
Workplace romances go as far back as you can imagine. When two people spend enough time together, it's not uncommon for them to develop feelings for each other. However, what if one (or both) of them are in a relationship? This usually spells trouble for the partner at home.
According to a study done by Vault.com, 58 percent of office employees in the U.S have been involved in an inter-office relationship. One of the participants in the study said,
"Every fibre of my being tells me 'do not pursue office romance'. And yet, every time I'm in a situation where I feel as if there may be a connection I don't cut it off "
Other studies showed similar results. As it turns out, a large majority of people in the workplace have either participated or are willing to participate in an inter-office relationship regardless of their marital status.
A few years ago, a woman emailed The Guardian about a workplace situation that she feared would ruin her relationship. The woman had started working at a new company and began developing feelings for someone she was working closely with.
The woman had no desire to betray her partner, but she constantly struggled with her feelings every time she went to work. In the email, she wrote,
"I have tried to retain perspective – I even told both my partner and my colleague how I feel, knowing that nothing would happen and hoping that the humiliation would be enough to drive my feelings away. But I still find myself agitated at work, enough to consider giving up my job ... "
Mariella Frostrup from The Guardian quickly replied and explained that there was no need for her to do anything drastic. She made it clear that finding a new job wouldn't be easy and also remarked that it wasn't a good idea for the woman to tell everyone about her feelings.
SHOULD YOU LEAVE YOUR JOB TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE?
Oftentimes, the only way to make this work is if it's solely your decision. If someone is attempting to coerce or manipulating their spouse into leaving their job, then it's likely to backfire, and they may end up resenting them for it.
But sometimes, leaving your job to save your marriage does work. For example, Chris Hemsworth's wife sacrificed her career so that he could take on the role of Marvel's "Thor," and the rest is history. Ultimately, it depends on the situation.
So how do you know when you're sacrificing too much in a relationship? Well, before you decide to make a drastic sacrifice for the sake of your relationship, take a step back and see if there's a better solution. We love hearing from you. Please leave a comment and let us know your opinion on this topic.