Valerie Bertinelli Still Has Regrets after Hearing Eddie Van Halen’s Last Words to Her
- Valerie Bertinelli liked Eddie Van Halen before she met him.
- The couple wed for a few months but split after 21 years of marriage and divorced after 26 years.
- After Eddie's death, Bertinelli expressed regrets about not getting closer during his battle with cancer.
Valerie Bertinelli liked Eddie Van Halen remarried, but their love never ended. Eddie Van Halen died in 2020 after a long battle with cancer. Valerie revealed her regrets after saying farewell to the father of her only son. Here are all the details of Bertinelli & Eddie Van Halen's farewell and relationship.
Eddie Van Halen and Valerie Bertinelli at the National Association of Music Merchants Show on June 19, 1983 | Source: Getty Images
In 1980, Valerie met Eddie when her brothers invited her to his concert to help them get backstage. When she saw a picture of Eddie on an 8-track cassette, she decided to go because she thought he was cute.
When she got backstage with her brothers and saw Eddie, Valerie said it was love at first sight. Three days later, she got a phone call from him asking her to meet him.
After they went out, they never separated from then on. Even though Eddie had a bad-boy image, Valerie considered him a gentleman and ensured they slept in separate rooms when they first started dating.
On April 11, 1981, the pair got married, and in an interview, Eddie said that even though he stayed out late and drank, he would never cheat on his wife with groupies.
In 1990, the couple welcomed their son, Wolfgang, named after the prolific classical composer Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart. In the first few years of their marriage, there were rumors that they always fought.
However, the couple stayed together and tried to make their marriage work. Valerie and Eddie started to look alike and could mirror each other's gestures.
Valerie Bertinelli's Love Life
In October 2001, the couple separated after 20 years of marriage and one son. They finalized their divorce in 2007, and a year later, Valerie revealed the real reasons they divorced.
Besides the infidelity that trailed their marriage, Valerie and Eddie decided to split because of their son. The couple no longer treated each other like they loved one another and didn't want their son to see that. She said they shared almost four decades of "love, anger, frustration, and friendship."
They wanted to give him a better vision of how two people who loved themselves should treat each other. After their divorce, she learned one of the best lessons ever.
Valerie learned to forgive because she realized that, at one point, she loved Eddie enough to have wanted to spend the rest of her life with him, and it could not have been so terrible to find that one piece of love inside her.
Tom Vitale and Valerie Bertinelli at the SiriusXM Studio on October 17, 2012, in New York | Source: Getty Images
She also hoped that when Eddie got married again and wanted to start a new life, he would take the time to marry someone he considered a friend and not someone he could not keep his hands off.
Valerie is also a proud mother and screamed when they nominated her son for the 2022 Grammy Awards. Wolfgang's song, "Distance," a tribute to his late father, was nominated for Best Rock Song. After their divorce, Valerie and Eddie both remarried. Valerie married a financial planner and entrepreneur, Tom Vitale, on January 1, 2011.
Eddie married his girlfriend of three years, a stuntwoman and wrestling manager, Janie Liszewski, on June 27, 2009. Valerie attended their wedding while their son was the ring bearer.
Janie Liszewski and Eddie Van Halen at the Esquire 80th anniversary and Esquire Network launch celebration on September 17, 2013, in New York | Source: Getty Images
On November 24, 2021, Valerie filed for divorce from Tom, citing irreconcilable differences. They have no kids together, and she was not asking for spousal support.
Valerie Bertinelli and Eddie Van Halen's Farewell
On October 6, 2020, Eddie died at 65 after a long and arduous battle with throat cancer. Wolfgang took to his Twitter page to announce the news while saying his father was the best father he could ever need.
Before his death, Eddie was quiet about his cancer and often flew to Germany for specialized treatment. In 2019, they hospitalized him due to complications with cancer medications.
While traveling to Germany for his treatments, he bought Valerie a pendant-sized gold bar and handed it to her on Thanksgiving Day in 2019. He bought her the gift to let her know he loved her and ruined things when they married. Valerie also agreed to have contributed to their troubles.
However, Valerie loved Eddie more than she knew to explain because she loved his soul. After their divorce, the couple remained friends and were there for each other through the happy and rough days.
In the final weeks of his life, Valerie and Wolfgang spent every day in the hospital with Eddie and his loved ones. Wolfgang and Valerie were also there with him in his final moments.
Before he died, he told both of them that he loved them. They were his last words. However, Valerie regretted holding back from getting too close to Eddie when he was sick.
They were both married at the time, and their marriages were struggling. Valerie also knew there was no chance of them getting back together, but if one had opened up, the other would, too, and she did not want to get into that.
After his death, Valerie took to her social media page to say that meeting Eddie changed her life forever. She was also grateful for their son, whom she called her one true light.
Months after his death, Valerie was still trying to survive her new normal. She described their relationship as "messy," but remembers only "the best" of him.
The actress said she could not put it into words because of how personal her feelings were, but she emphasized that she had never experienced the love that she and Eddie shared. Despite their rocky moments together, she knew he loved her, and no one else had loved her the way he did.
For Valerie, the connection she and Eddie shared could not be explained as love because words could not measure the feelings they felt for one another. She remembers the beautiful moments more than the challenging moments she shared with Eddie. Valerie hopes to live on through their son, much like Eddie's memory lives on through them both.
On what would have been Eddie's 66th birthday, Valerie and Wolfgang celebrated the day, and she looked forward to the next life where they would see him again.
As she went through the stages of grief, Valerie constantly reminded herself that grief could be a lesson. She also encouraged her fans to learn a lot through their suffering while having patience with themselves.
Valerie Bertinelli's Son Got Married
Valerie's son married his long-time fiancée Andraia Allsop on October 15, 2023. The couple held their big day at their Los Angeles home with 90 guests. Wolfgang and Andraia were together for eight years and chose their wedding day to match their first-date anniversary.
Wolfgang and his wife were happy to share their special day with their family. Their goal was to have a day where all their loved ones came to celebrate, especially since they had experienced some painful losses along the way.
The former Food Network star was proud to see her son enter this new chapter with Andraia. She was happy Wolfgang had found someone to build and share his life with. Valerie did not forget to mention how proud Eddie would have been of their son. She expressed:
"Ed would've been absolutely beaming and so, so proud of the man Wolfie has become and is becoming and so happy that he has found Andraia, someone who really understands Wolfie, who he is and who he wants to be, and supports him wholeheartedly."
Although Wolfgang suffered the pain of losing his father and not getting to share his wedding day with him, he and his wife were happy to have brought their families together because the day was not just about them getting married but celebrating their union with the people they loved.
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