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8 Words from Christopher Reeve's Wife Saved His Life When He Wanted to End It After Paralysis

Christell Fatima M. Tudtud
Nov 13, 2024
11:05 A.M.

Christopher Reeve experienced a life-altering accident that left him paralyzed. In the aftermath, he struggled with despair and lost his will to live. However, his outlook changed dramatically due to the powerful and supportive words of his wife.

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Christopher Reeve gained widespread fame for his portrayal of Clark Kent in the beloved "Superman" film series, where his performance endeared him to audiences around the world.

Christopher Reeve pictured on the roof of a midtown Manhattan building on July 18, 1977, in Manhattan, New York. | Source: Getty Images

Christopher Reeve pictured on the roof of a midtown Manhattan building on July 18, 1977, in Manhattan, New York. | Source: Getty Images

His introduction to his future wife came through their mutual connection to the performing arts. One evening, while taking a break, the actor attended a cabaret show and found himself captivated by a performer named Dana Morosini.

Christopher Reeve and Dana Reeve during the opening of "Merchant of Venice" on December 19, 1989, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images

Christopher Reeve and Dana Reeve during the opening of "Merchant of Venice" on December 19, 1989, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images

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Though winning her heart required some persistence, he eventually succeeded. The couple married in 1992 and later welcomed their son, William Reeve, into their lives that same year.

Christopher Reeve with Dana Reeve and Will Reeve after being honored with a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame on 15 April, 1997, in Los Angeles, California. | Source: Getty Images

Christopher Reeve with Dana Reeve and Will Reeve after being honored with a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame on 15 April, 1997, in Los Angeles, California. | Source: Getty Images

In 1995, Christopher's life took a tragic turn when a freak accident during a cross-country horse competition left him paralyzed from the neck down.

Christopher Reeve prior to a hearing on Capitol Hill on April 26, 2000, in Washington, DC. | Source: Getty Images

Christopher Reeve prior to a hearing on Capitol Hill on April 26, 2000, in Washington, DC. | Source: Getty Images

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Six years after the accident, in a candid May 2001 interview, Christopher reflected on how his life had changed. He noted that while it was hard to believe six years had passed, the time felt both incredibly long and surprisingly short.

Christopher admitted that he occasionally experienced flashbacks from that fateful day, despite his efforts to avoid dwelling on it. He recounted the moments leading up to the incident, describing it as "a very hot, very humid, very lethargic day."

The Emmy Award winner also recalled a vague sense that "things weren't really in the groove" that day. He confessed that he wasn't fully committed to the competition at the time, and had even preferred the idea of going sailing that weekend.

As time passed, however, Christopher found that each year made it easier for him to come to terms with what had happened. The thoughts of what he could have done differently gradually lost their hold over him.

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Christopher Reeve assisted by others | Source: YouTube/WarnerBrosPictures

Christopher Reeve assisted by others | Source: YouTube/WarnerBrosPictures

Though he recognized that his injuries might weigh more heavily on him as time went on, Christopher made a conscious decision to move forward and not let those thoughts define his future.

When asked about how the accident impacted his family, Christopher shared that he faced numerous injuries before but had always managed to survive without long-term consequences.

Christopher Reeve during American Oceans Campaign's Partner Award Honors Christopher Reeve on April 30, 1996, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images

Christopher Reeve during American Oceans Campaign's Partner Award Honors Christopher Reeve on April 30, 1996, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images

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"I remember always thinking I must not injure myself, to ever become incapacitated," Christopher divulged. However, this time, he realized the profound repercussions his injury had on his loved ones.

He admitted, "I felt very guilty," acknowledging the burden his condition placed on his wife and children. "It's okay to make your own mess, as long as it doesn't get in the way of other people," he reflected. But in this case, his injuries had undeniably affected those closest to him.

Christopher Reeve photographed on September 4, 1996 | Source: Getty Images

Christopher Reeve photographed on September 4, 1996 | Source: Getty Images

The director asked himself how they were all going to cope as a family and navigate around his condition. "We won't be able to do all those things we ever did before," he noted. He acknowledged that after such a life-changing event, it's common to feel diminished, but he emphasized the importance of perseverance.

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He compared the progress in spinal cord injury research to the advancements made in the fight against AIDS, noting that with dedication, seemingly impossible challenges can be overcome.

Christopher Reeve during Christopher Reeve Honored at the Hotel Delmonico on November 1, 2001, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images

Christopher Reeve during Christopher Reeve Honored at the Hotel Delmonico on November 1, 2001, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images

The author encouraged others not to give up, as there are always breakthroughs on the horizon. He also discussed the aftermath of his accident, describing how individuals face a choice after the initial shock and grief: either to succumb to despair or to harness their resources to make a positive impact.

For Christopher, this choice was clear—he chose to fight against the physical and emotional challenges, driven by his competitive spirit to combat the effects of his condition.

Christopher Reeve during 11th Annual A Magical Evening Gala on November 13, 2001, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images

Christopher Reeve during 11th Annual A Magical Evening Gala on November 13, 2001, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images

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Christopher shared that during the three years following his accident, he never had a dream where he was in a wheelchair. Each morning, it took him a few moments to adjust, only to be reminded that he couldn't move his arms or legs.

It often took five to ten minutes for reality to set in. In his dreams, however, he still found himself doing all the activities he once enjoyed—sailing, riding, traveling, and acting on stage. His mind continued to cling to the memories of when he was able-bodied.

Christopher Reeve speaking at the Bio conference on March 28, 2000, in Boston, Massachusetts. | Source: Getty Images

Christopher Reeve speaking at the Bio conference on March 28, 2000, in Boston, Massachusetts. | Source: Getty Images

After his accident, Christopher became increasingly involved in advocating for people with disabilities, although he did not see himself strictly as a spokesperson.

While acknowledging that the media often portrayed him as an advocate, the BAFTA Award winner clarified that his focus was primarily on conditions affecting the central nervous system, such as spinal cord injuries, Multiple Sclerosis, Parkinson's Disease, stroke, and Alzheimer's.

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Christopher Reeve during the 56th Annual Golden Globe Awards on January 24, 1999, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images

Christopher Reeve during the 56th Annual Golden Globe Awards on January 24, 1999, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images

He emphasized that he couldn't represent all disabilities due to his limited knowledge outside these areas. However, he was committed to raising awareness, as demonstrated by his efforts to secure a two-hour primetime television special that highlighted spinal cord injuries and showcased disabled performers.

Through his foundation, Christopher allocated 30 percent of funds raised to improve the quality of life for people with disabilities, while his personal focus remained on research, therapies, and finding cures.

Christopher Reeve looks at the Mediterranean Sea from the promenade on August 1, 2003, in Tel Aviv, Israel. | Source: Getty Images

Christopher Reeve looks at the Mediterranean Sea from the promenade on August 1, 2003, in Tel Aviv, Israel. | Source: Getty Images

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The actor also expressed that, like any public figure, he was aware of differing opinions regarding his work. He believed that every individual, including those with disabilities, had the right to direct their energies where they saw fit, even if others disagreed with their approach.

Christopher's dedication to raising awareness and advancing research for spinal cord injuries seemed fueled by his wife's steadfast words of strength and support.

Dana Reeve and Christopher Reeve at the Academy of Motion Picture Arts & Sciences on October 25, 1993, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images

Dana Reeve and Christopher Reeve at the Academy of Motion Picture Arts & Sciences on October 25, 1993, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images

In the wake of his injury, he faced moments of profound vulnerability, wondering how he would make a living to support his family and feeling a deep sadness for his two older children, Matthew and Alexandra, from his previous relationship. They were only 15 and 11 when his injury changed their lives.

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Alexandra Reeve, Christopher Reeve, Matthew Reeve, and Gae Exton pictured spending time outside on January 1, 1985 | Source: Getty Images

Alexandra Reeve, Christopher Reeve, Matthew Reeve, and Gae Exton pictured spending time outside on January 1, 1985 | Source: Getty Images

When he awoke in the hospital after the incident, he was overwhelmed with despair and even considered ending his life. In a moment of deep vulnerability, Christopher asked his wife, Dana, if she would let him go.

Dana Reeve speaks to Christopher Reeve during treatment | Source: YouTube/WarnerBrosPictures

Dana Reeve speaks to Christopher Reeve during treatment | Source: YouTube/WarnerBrosPictures

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He recounted how, without hesitation, Dana looked him in the eye and said, "'But you're still you, and I love you.'" This moment became a turning point for Christopher, inspiring him to commit to the goal of walking again.

Christopher Reeve and Dana Reeve | Source: YouTube/WarnerBrosPictures

Christopher Reeve and Dana Reeve | Source: YouTube/WarnerBrosPictures

Dana's powerful words also inspired the title of her husband's book, "Still Me." This profound support shifted his perspective, helping him see reasons to carry on despite his injury.

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Reactions to Dana's message for Christopher poured on social media, with one person writing on Instagram, "That’s so heartbreaking but the strength she gave him has me in awe." Another praised Dana, saying, "That is an amazing woman," while someone else expressed, "What a sad story."

Sadly, Christopher Reeve passed away in October 2004 due to an infection. A year later, his wife Dana Reeve revealed that she had been diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer. Two years, later, in March 2006, she also passed away.

Dana and Christopher Reeve at the opening of "The Saint of Fort Washington" to benefit the Creative Coalition on November 16, 1993, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images

Dana and Christopher Reeve at the opening of "The Saint of Fort Washington" to benefit the Creative Coalition on November 16, 1993, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images

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Since their parents' deaths, Will, Alexandra, and Matthew have worked to keep their legacy alive. In September 2024, Will spoke with his siblings about whether people had worried enough about them after their loss.

Christopher Reeve and Dana Reeve during "Once Around" screening after party on January 15, 1991, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images

Christopher Reeve and Dana Reeve during "Once Around" screening after party on January 15, 1991, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images

Alexandra replied that she had not considered it, as their focus was on moving forward. "The job at hand was keeping things going, keeping us OK, keeping everyone OK, honoring them in the right way, setting you up for success," she explained. Matthew also commented, "I think our greatest focus and frame of mind was you."

Matthew, Alexandra, and Will Reeve attend the "Super/Man: The Christopher Reeve Story" New York premiere at the Museum of Modern Art on September 18, 2024, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images

Matthew, Alexandra, and Will Reeve attend the "Super/Man: The Christopher Reeve Story" New York premiere at the Museum of Modern Art on September 18, 2024, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images

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Will also spoke about his journey in 2016, sharing his dedication as an ambassador for the Christopher & Dana Reeve Foundation to advancing his parents' vision.

Christopher and Dana Reeve, with their son Will, at Christopher's Star ceremony on the Hollywood Walk of Fame on April 15, 1997, in Hollywood, California. | Source: Getty Images

Christopher and Dana Reeve, with their son Will, at Christopher's Star ceremony on the Hollywood Walk of Fame on April 15, 1997, in Hollywood, California. | Source: Getty Images

Now an ABC News correspondent, he acknowledged that his parents' story holds deep meaning for both the public and his family, emphasizing its lasting significance.

Will Reeve speaks at the Variety Sundance Studio on January 20, 2024, in Park City, Utah. | Source: Getty Images

Will Reeve speaks at the Variety Sundance Studio on January 20, 2024, in Park City, Utah. | Source: Getty Images

"My dad was obsessed with finding a cure for spinal cord injury so that he might walk again; he truly believed that he would. That is what sustained him," Will said. "I hope I make my parents proud. I try to do that every day and like to think they would be."

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