Selena Gomez's 'Controlling' Gesture Toward Benny Blanco at Their Wedding Revealed by Body Language Expert

For the "Calm Down" singer, her wedding day radiated pure joy — a barefoot skip across the lawn, a satin gown shimmering in the sun, and a carousel of images shared with millions. But behind the polished moments, some saw subtler details worth a second glance.

Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco tied the knot in Santa Barbara over the weekend. The couple's wedding may have looked like a fairytale. Still, a body language expert, Judi James, suggests their photos reveal contrasting comfort levels between the bride and groom.

Old Hollywood Glamor

The couple's wedding attire added to the event's timeless elegance. The bride wore a custom hand-draped halter-neck satin dress with embroidery, and a small bouquet of lilies of the valley. The groom opted for a black tuxedo. Ralph Lauren dressed both.

Gomez, 33, shared moments from the celebration on Instagram in a carousel, captioned, "🤍 9.27.25 🤍." While the singer's excitement shone through in candid photos and videos, her husband, 37, appeared more subdued, according to analysis by body language expert James.

"Most of her gestures suggest a more leading and controlling role in the relationship. Her bouquet arm encircles Benny's neck, and she places her other hand on his chest in a gesture of possession, with the hand near his heart suggesting ownership of that vital organ," James told the Daily Mail in an exclusive interview.

While Gomez's demeanor suggested happiness and security in marriage, Blanco appeared less at ease in front of the cameras. "Benny is clearly besotted but he appears less comfortable with the cameras and the poses [sic]," James noted.

In several images, Blanco's expressions were muted despite his affection for Gomez. "His features look expressionless, and his eyes almost appear closed. When Selena places her hands up near his neck, he pushes them down and turns away to the cameras," observed the body language expert.

The contrast between Gomez's exuberance and Blanco's restraint was particularly noticeable in one clip within the carousel where the bride skipped barefoot across the lawn, tugging her husband along.

Despite the differing levels of comfort under the spotlight, James stressed that the affection between the newlyweds is genuine. She said that Gomez's body language reflected "high levels of trust and feelings of security," while Blanco, though seemingly reserved for the cameras, appeared devoted to his bride.

A-List Guests and Family Speeches

The ceremony and reception drew a who's who of Hollywood and the music industry. According to a source, Gomez's "Only Murders in the Building" costars Steve Martin and Martin Short spoke at the rehearsal dinner. At the same time, her music world peers — including Taylor Swift, Ed Sheeran, Finneas, SZA, and Camila Cabello — attended the big day.

Mark Ronson DJed the reception. Swift, 35, and Sheeran, 34, also gave speeches. Gomez's mom, Mandy Teefey, and stepfather, Brian Teefey, as well as Blanco's parents, Sandra and Andrew Levin, also shared words.

"Everyone was letting loose and celebrating them well into the night. They were glowing all night, and both Selena and Benny couldn't stop smiling. There was so much love in the room," a source told People.

A Glimpse Behind the Scenes

Despite the body expert's analysis, Blanco's own carousel post offered a more intimate glimpse of the celebration. He captioned the post, "i married a real life disney princess [sic]." One shot from his carousel highlighted the newlyweds' hands — wedding bands catching the light, lace from Gomez's gown visible, and Blanco's oversized jeweled watch and bracelet on display.

The most tender image showed the "Wizards of Waverly Place" actress with her eyes closed, resting against Blanco's chest. The final frame captured an unscripted moment: a young boy in a tuxedo sprawled across a red patterned rug before a floral altar, the officiant still standing nearby — a charming reminder of the day's family-centered joy.

Social Media Reactions

As their star-studded ceremony drew headlines and experts weighed in, it was the couple's own social media posts that truly set the internet buzzing, sparking both adoration and debate among fans. Blanco followed up in the comments of Selena Gomez's post about their wedding with the declaration that melted hearts across the platform, writing, "my wife in real life [sic]."

The images sparked an immediate frenzy online, garnering over 20 million likes within hours. Still, not all reactions were glowing. Some followers took to the comments with concerns about Blanco's expressions in certain photos. "Why is Benny not smiling!? I am happy for Selena but this also worries me for Selena [sic]," one critic questioned.

Another commented, "Benny looking like a hostage 🤦‍♂️." Despite the skepticism, the mood in the comments remained essentially joyous. "He looks so handsome and she looks so beautiful," one fan gushed.

Another supporter shared, "Gorgeous photos! I'm in love with her dress! So happy for them.💕" Someone else raved, "SO SO HAPPY FOR YOU TWO!!! Thank you for sharing a glimpse of your special day!! We love you 😭❤️."

In the end, Gomez and Blanco's wedding carried the hallmarks of both Hollywood spectacle and intimate celebration — dazzling gowns and celebrity guests balanced with candid moments and quiet gestures of love. While opinions may differ on what the photos reveal, the couple’s own words and actions paint a picture of devotion.