Tamar Braxton Reacts after Winning Reality Royalty in Reality TV Awards
Tamar Braxton, who seems to be making positive changes in her life in the past couple of days, penned a touching note in response to her emergence as Reality Royalty in the 6th Annual Reality Television Awards.
Over the years, Tamar’s public image has been that of the bratty, ill-tempered sister as portrayed on “Braxton Family Values” and the 42-year-old addressed that while appreciating her recent honor.
In an Instagram post where she turned off comments, Tamar wrote:
“Thank y’all so much!! As much pain and turmoil that something I created a decade ago to be so positive that has turned into a complete [expletive] show, I’m grateful that those who knows (sic) what it takes to maintain professional (sic) and be the fall guy in EVERY situation and remain sane, gives you the recognition you deserve. How about that!! To God be the glory and may the truth prevail in due Time! I love y’all”
Although Tamar’s post suggests that she’s misunderstood, the singer/reality star seemed to agree that she’s behaved poorly in the past when she issued an apology on Instagram yesterday.
Alongside a video of herself at the water park with family and friends, including her Nigerian boyfriend David Adefeso, she apologized to her former co-hosts on “The Real,” Tamera Mowry-Housley, Loni Love, Jeannie Mai, and Adrienne Houghton.
Tamar was fired from the Fox daytime show in 2016 and on more than one occasion since then, has thrown subtle shade at her former colleagues.
A NEW TAMAR
“When all u know and felt is hurt. You hurt. Self inflicted (sic) and to others are included. From my sisters, the ladies of the real, Iyanla, old and new Friends and whomever else I’ve EVER hurt, from being hurt,” Tamar wrote. “Please forgive me. I didn’t know love to show you love. Now I do thanks to my [David Adefeso].
THE 'DAVID' EFFECT
Tamar first opened up about her boyfriend last September, and it wasn’t until April that they made their first public appearance, but it looks like the Harvard Business School graduate is influencing her positively.
David, a financial expert, recently offered fans insight into how he’s been helping Tamar change for the better. In a lengthy Instagram post, he detailed how broken his woman was when he met her last year.
At the time, Tamar was not only reeling from her ongoing divorce to estranged hubby, Vincent Herbert, but she was also carrying the pain of being physically and emotionally assaulted by the men in her life, David claimed.
THE CHOICE BEFORE THE CHANGE
“I had a choice: to continue the emotional and psychological abuse she had endured for almost 3 decades by being aggressively controlling and manipulative or to be a kind, gentle and loving friend and lover to the woman I love- Well, I chose the latter, and the results have been outstanding! With few exceptions the anger has been replaced by joy, the despair has morphed into a need to help the abused.”
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When I met my @tamarbraxton 12 months ago she was angry, distraught and almost-completely broken. She'd lost her family, her friends, her job and was estranged from her mom and sisters who she loves so much. While her behavior was a significant cause of these misfortunes, it took me a while to recognize that there were other equally valid causes, including being repeatedly assaulted by men in her life she trusted (first physically as a child, then emotionally later on in life by deeply aggressive and utterly controlling romantic relationships); finally culminating in the continuing psychological damage brought on by working on a TV show she feels utterly shackled to due to contract terms. This is what I inherited so I had a choice: to continue the emotional and psychological abuse she had endured for almost 3 decades by being aggressively controlling and manipulative or to be a kind, gentle and loving friend and lover to the woman I love- Well, I chose the latter, and the results have been outstanding! With few exceptions the anger has been replaced by joy, the despair has morphed into a need to help the abused (check out #NoNeedTBShame), and the kind, gentle, beautiful and self-assured woman that is my @tamarbraxton is now on full display (check out our social media activities over the past 3 months since the show was shot and see the new Tamar)! A word to our strong black men who are in relationships with our beautiful black women- when you make a commitment to love that sista, it is your duty and responsibility to STAND BY YOUR WOMAN. PERIOD! Irrespective of wealth, power or fame, many of our women have endured the same challenges that my Tamar has, including physical and emotional abuse, endemic marginalization, controlling romantic relationships and desertion by black men. Some of what many have condescendingly coined as #AngryBlackWoman is simply a reflection of, and reaction to, the life experiences of our beautiful black women. So gentlemen, we DO NOT abandon our sistas when things get tough, and especially when they need us the most. We love them through it, we support them through it, and we protect them through it! #BlackMenStandUpForBlackWomen
Good for Tamar! It looks like the singer has finally found herself a keeper.