Michelle Obama Spoke at the Essence Festival about Her Father's Death at Age 55

On her recent interview with Gayle King at the Essence Festival in New Orleans, Michelle Obama opened up about the death of her father from Multiple Sclerosis and the role he and her brother had in her life as a woman.

Former first lady Michelle Obama recently sat down with CBS “This Morning" co-host Gayle King for a well-rounded interview at Essence Festival where she talked a bit about everything: from her time in the White House, her marriage and raising her daughters in a protected environment, to the upcoming elections, and her late father.

Fraser Robinson III was 55-year-old when he died in 1991 from multiple sclerosis complications.


King brought up the topic wanting to know if Obama, who’s now 55, had reflected on how it affected her having the same age Robinson had when he passed.

Obama started by saying that she thinks about her dad every day.

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I love this photo of my father because it shows so much of his presence—his strength, his poise, and yes, his style. My dad was pretty cool. He was proud and warm with a smooth baritone voice and ready laugh. He was also quite punctual, as you can see from his wristwatch suntan. But I also love this photo because its imperfections capture a lot about what it’s like for me to think about him today. This snapshot is a reminder that all memories are somewhat incomplete, a photographic representation that my time with him was cut short. And that’s ok—that’s life. And that’s why, today and every day, I’m grateful for all of it: for every imperfect photograph, for every incomplete memory, and for the many wonderful, beautiful years I had to learn and love — and be loved by — my father. Happy Father’s Day, Dad. I miss you and I’ll love you forever.

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“My dad was a blue-collar worker who didn’t want much in life. He poured everything he had into me and my brother,” she said.

And continued:

“Not a day goes by that me and my brother don’t think about the fact that he didn’t live long enough to see who he raised.”


Michelle—who had remarked on the importance of women taking charge of their health and well-being earlier in the conversation—revealed that watching her dad suffer from MS; a degenerative disease is one of the reasons why she doesn’t take her health for granted.

She said:

“My father was an athlete. He boxed, and he swam, and because of this disease, he died not being able to walk without the assistance of crutches. I knew he was a man who valued movement, and it was taken from him. So, at no point in my life, do I take my health for granted.”


Obama took the chance to stir the conversation back to her health concerns for the country, stating that sometimes we lose people because of things that they can’t help, but many health situations can be avoided.

“We have control over the food we put in our bodies, how we move, whether we go to the doctor on a regular basis, whether we’re watching out for diabetes and asthma," she stated. "Whether we’re doing things to prevent completely preventable illnesses.”

A conversation with Michelle Obama takes place during the 2019 ESSENCE Festival at the Mercedes-Benz Superdome on July 06, 2019. | Photo: GettyImages

A conversation with Michelle Obama takes place during the 2019 ESSENCE Festival at the Mercedes-Benz Superdome on July 06, 2019. | Photo: GettyImages

Michelle also lamented the fact that her daughters, Sasha and Malia, didn’t get the chance to meet their grandfather and experience the values he gave to her and her brother.

“That’s why we have to take charge of our health, so we’re not gone too soon,” she concluded.


Elsewhere int the conversation, Michelle encouraged mothers and women, in general, to start having conversations about putting themselves first when it comes to their families:

“We’re living in a world when we as women are so devalued, we have trained ourselves to think we don’t deserve it. That we don’t even deserve to take care of ourselves. And we have to kind of search our minds and our histories, our backgrounds, to find out where that hurt comes from.”

She also encouraged men to take a stand, as they also “play an important role.”

“My father and my brother had the greatest impact on my self-esteem because I grew up in a household with men who loved me and respected me very early on,” she said. “Who told me how beautiful I was, who treated me as an equal.”

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With #MothersDay just a couple days away, I find myself thinking a lot about the way my mother raised me. And even though our family was crammed into a tiny apartment, one of the greatest gifts she gave me was the freedom to explore and develop into my own person. For instance, even though we didn’t have much money, she and my dad cobbled enough money together to send me on a high-school trip to Paris, which opened up the world to me in so many ways. And now that I’m raising kids of my own, I wanted to pass that lesson on to my own girls. I’ve been so fortunate to be able to travel with Sasha and Malia all across the country and around the world—experiences my mother never would have dreamed of back when I was their age. But though the settings may be different, the message is the same, and it’s one I hope mothers everywhere pass on to their daughters—in seeking out new perspectives and reaching outside of our comfort zones, we can discover more about ourselves.

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And concluded: “So even at an early age because I had a father and a brother and the men in my life who didn’t hurt me, who took care of me, the bar for what I expected for myself was set by the men in my life.”

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