Common Really Wants to Become a Husband: 'I Just Want That Partnership'

Common opened up to Jada Pinkett Smith about his deepest desire to become a husband despite his string of failed relationships in the past. "I think I just want that partnership," he confesses.

He’s a successful musician, actor, and author but rapper Common admits there’s one thing he still grasps to achieve a lasting relationship. In fact, he recently admitted his goal nowadays is to become a husband. 

Common speaking onstage during "A Conversation With Common & Atlanta Mayor Keisha Lance Bottoms" at The Gathering Spot on May 20, 2019 in Atlanta, Georgia. | Source: Getty Images

Common speaking onstage during "A Conversation With Common & Atlanta Mayor Keisha Lance Bottoms" at The Gathering Spot on May 20, 2019 in Atlanta, Georgia. | Source: Getty Images

The 47-year-old Oscar winner recently sat down with Jada Pinkett-Smith on her Facebook Watch show, “Red Table Talk” and candidly spoke of his desire to find a partner in life. In his 30 years in the business, he has never been married despite the string of relationships he managed to have. 

“The pattern I found myself in—and my therapist broke it down—was the feeling of being in love and that honeymoon period. I was addicted to that feeling.”

In a sneak peek for the show, Common confesses, “I would like to be a husband,” a role that’s been elusive to him. In the past, he admitted to taking steps to achieve that goal including going to therapy and getting relationship advice from Michelle Obama

Common promoting his book, "Let Love Have the Last Word," at Barnes and Noble on May 7, 2019 at 5th Avenue, New York City. | Source: Getty Images

Common promoting his book, "Let Love Have the Last Word," at Barnes and Noble on May 7, 2019 at 5th Avenue, New York City. | Source: Getty Images

ON SEEKING THERAPY FOR HIS LOVE ADDICTION

While promoting his latest memoir, “Let Love Have the Last Word,” on “The Breakfast Club,” the rapper/actor says he sought the advice of a therapist to address his “love addiction.” He learned that his relationships revealed a pattern that always resulted in a break-up.

“The pattern I found myself in—and my therapist broke it down—was the feeling of being in love and that honeymoon period. I was addicted to that feeling,” he said. “When that feeling would go away and the real part of the relationships came, I was like, ‘OK. Do I want this or not?’ I wasn’t ready to do the work.”

"...sometimes I’m always looking for the perfect person. I need this perfect but I’m not perfect so what am I doing?" 

ON TAKING RELATIONSHIP ADVICE FROM MICHELLE OBAMA

Meanwhile, he also consulted with the former first lady whose wisdom drawn from her own successful marriage helped the rapper see his quest for a partner from a different perspective. 

“A lot of the things she said to me is just like wisdom,” he told Stephen Colbert on “The Late Show.” 

“Cause sometimes I’m always looking for the perfect person. I need this perfect but I’m not perfect so what am I doing? But she was like, ‘Look, you’re going to have to compromise sometimes, right?’”

Michelle also urged him to look beyond the superficial things he’s looking for in a person and focus on the core values that matter. 

"Now, I think I just want that partnership. To be able to experience life where I’m growing as a human being."

ON WANTING TO BE A HUSBAND

That being said, Common tells Jada, “I know it’s hard” but also expresses his desire to settle down. 

“I would like to be a husband. Now, I think I just want that partnership. To be able to experience life where I’m growing as a human being …and it’s fun too.”

ON HIS MOST RECENT RELATIONSHIP

Common’s most recent relationship was with political analyst Angela Rye who he dated for a year until March 2018. Many thought they would end up marrying but were disappointed to learn that union fizzled too. 

Last month, the former couple sparked reconciliation rumors when they were spotted hanging out again. Neither has confirmed the speculations. The last time the rapper spoke of Angela was back in November while they were still dating. He described her as “an amazing, incredible woman” who he enjoyed being with. Meanwhile, Angela told Page Six after they broke up,  “We have and will always be friends.”